You Can Love Him Now

standupgirl I recently had a bout with Lyme disease.  I was visiting my best friend in California and we decided to go hiking in the woods.  Later that night I discovered that I had been bitten by a tick.  About two weeks later I came down with some really weird symptoms so I went to see the doctor right away.  He put me on heavy doses of medication and referred me to see a specialist.  When I saw the specialist he asked me if there was a possibility that I could have syphilis.  He was asking because Lyme disease and syphilis look very similar.

I answered him with my normal bluntness, “I’ve never had sex before so there is no possible way that I could have syphilis.”  He looked at me and looked down at my chart and said: “You’re 27 and you’ve never had sex before?”  His voice was replete with condescension.  He treated me like I was some type of social leper because I have not had sex – like there must me something wrong with me.  He then told me he did not know of anyone my age who had never had sex before.  I told him: “That’s funny because all of my friends are virgins too!”

How could this doctor be so out of touch?  The joke was on him; he was the fool not me!  For starters, yes, there are plenty of people my age who have not had sex.  It’s not something you HAVE to do.  There is something called self-control.  Not only that, my life is free of worry from a pregnancy scare or a sexually transmitted disease.  I have decided to make the healthiest and the wisest choices with my life, and he treats me as though I must have some problem because I have never had sex before?  Seriously?!

The truth of the matter is “safe sex” is the biggest lie being propagated to women.  There is no such thing as “safe sex”.  If you have sex and are on birth control or use a condom or use them in combination, you can still get pregnant.  Whenever you have sex you can get pregnant.  There is no amount of precaution or protection in the world that can ensure that you will not become pregnant.  Look, the total change in CO2 that is leading to world wide panic over global warming is 0.015% (from oneclimate.net).  The best “pregnancy protection” methods in the world claim to be 300 times worse than that for average young women, with about a 5% failure rate.  Compared to any other measure you want to look at concerning your health (water quality, food purity, pharmaceutical effectiveness, anything) these “birth control” methods are a disaster waiting to happen.

Example?  Condoms generally only reduce your risk for sexually transmitted diseases by 50% over 10 years of sex.  50%!  That is like putting a six chambered gun to your head that contains three bullets.  Why would anyone do that?!  Why would anyone have sex with a condom and think that they are protected?

The truth of the matter is widely present diseases like HPV (which is in epidemic proportions in the United States right now), syphilis, and herpes are all transmitted through bodily fluids and skin-to-skin contact.  So you don’t even have to have all out sex with someone to get it.  If your genital area comes into contact with someone else’s who has one of these diseases you can contract it.  Why would I be so foolish as to put my life and my reproductive health in danger?

I am waiting for marriage to have sex.  There is no better feeling than knowing that the intimacy you share with the love of your life – your husband, has not been given away or shared with anyone else.  The temporary wait is hard but the payout is awesome and will last a lifetime.  Who won’t want to give themselves and their future husband the very best?  Even though I have no idea who my husband is I can start by loving him even now, even when I don’t know him.



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nmkhawane
WAIT, WAIT and WAIT!
written by nmkhawane , August 29, 2011
You are doing a good thing by staying a virgin. I lost my virginity at the age of 15 and wished I could turn back the clock. But by the Lord's grace, I can from now on stay pure and wait for God's will. His Word in Revelations 21:5 says, "Behold, I make all things new", and Psalm 103:5 says, "who satisfies your desires with good thing so that your youth is renewed like the eagles's." It is not a shame to stay a virgin, God will bless you for that. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise, for you will regret so much.
remilda
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written by remilda , July 04, 2011
my oh my i do love what you just said i lost my virginyt at age of 27 years and i was a joke for many poeple and i showed them waiting for things always come true i got married to my bfriend off 3years this year january he was more then happy to wait untill we where married i had my dream wedding with my best friend that loved me respected me from day one and till this day on piss and guess wat i am 2months pregant with our first child we are so proud to have a litte one on day way so there is notthing wrong to be a virgin i was one and proud off it so girl i know you will find your soul mate like i did wishing all the best coz some poele can be very harsh and ice cold my sista from a other mother wendy moore mwahsmilies/cool.gif
MissP
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written by MissP , June 24, 2011
That's such an achievement, especially with the way society is going, sex seems like just another thing you do, like watching a movie. It would be good if a majority though like you.
siano
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written by siano , May 12, 2011
you are awesome....great work...keep it up!!!!!!!!!!smilies/smiley.gif
Chak Cure
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written by Chak Cure , January 16, 2011
go gal. u realy have a strong will-power and I wish u the best.
WayYouLie
:)
written by WayYouLie , January 13, 2011
this is truly amazing, you are an inspiration to lots of girls. it is RIGHT not to have sex, it doesnt make you any less of a person

i was embarrased about being a virgin, but now that im not, i feel proud to have been a virgin for so long while many of my friends were having sex with random peole and ending up with children at 16...

i wanted to wait till marraige to have sex, but i feel now that i have met the person i want to spend the rest of my life with smilies/smiley.gif


mommaof1
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written by mommaof1 , January 02, 2011
You're really inspirationsal. I lost my v at 13and now i'm 10 years younger than you with 2 children. I wiah i'd had the will power to waitnot that I rtregret my beautiful children but things could have been so much different. We culd have waited because were getting married next year and i've only ever been with him. Its just one of those things
vanceraleigh
stressed....
written by vanceraleigh , December 21, 2010
Hi. I'm having a baby in my womb going 7 months. it was not too easy to appreciate or whatever it calls but i want my baby to be strong and healthy even if sometimes i felt so annoying and paranoid. I've already told to my mom but she did not happy when she hears that she's going to be granny. I'm so scared to tell to my dad that I'm pregnant but my friends said that it's time to reveal the truth. I wasn't to tell the whole story to my mom because she is crying and crying and crying and I'm keeping sorry and sorry and sorry. Help me to find out the way how my feelings to be re-inverse in the peaceful mind.
desyyy
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written by desyyy , November 28, 2010
smilies/cheesy.gif stay positive an i wish u the best
ica
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written by ica , November 21, 2010
good for you you were able to keep that precious gift for your husband to be...
but virginity doesn't measure your humanity
if the man loves you he will accept you who ever you are.what ever you have or you don't have

cyndi
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written by cyndi , October 25, 2010
Wooooooow,you are an inspiration,,,keep it up.[removed]void(0);
SaraFontaine
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written by SaraFontaine , May 29, 2010
i think thats a really good choice.
You go girl. smilies/smiley.gif
yelliebean
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written by yelliebean , May 21, 2010
good for you girl! i lost my virginity at age 15. young hey? its alright. i've been with him for almost 2 years. i know some people want to wait for marriage, and i'm proud of you your holding out for the right man!
xJosiax
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written by xJosiax , January 09, 2010
You go girl! I think it is amazing and i also think it is a shame that people have the attitude that they do toward people who wait to have sex until marriage. I lost my virginity at a young age and had a few sexual partners and most of them were losers. All of them were not worthy of me and the gift i gave them. I had a child young and i don't regret having him. Though sometimes i wish i had waited for my husband. He is christian and was 27 at the time and a virgin and he wanted to wait until marriage so we did. My friends thought it was a joke that he was a virgin and hadn't had a serious girlfriend. His reason? They just weren't right. He knew that he would just know when he found the right one. So keep it up girl there is nothing better than knowing you are loved adored and cherished by a man who waited 27 years just for you.
Tandu
Tandu says...
written by Tandu , November 12, 2009
yeah, that's really awesome. keep up to that. i'm also trying my best to wait until marriage. it's hard, but if others have done it, why not mesmilies/smiley.gif
rungano
rungano says...
written by rungano , October 06, 2009
Am so proud of wendy ooh it's unbeliavable to hear that someone never had sex be4 at the age of 27 ooh i wish i could have done such a thing too. keep it up baby girl.
Ndumi
Ndumi says...
written by Ndumi , May 20, 2009
I'm very proud of you,i wish i had your positive attitude towards life.i lost my virginity at age 18 and i regret it i wish i could have it back but i can't.so hold on to it until ur really sure u want to loose it,its really special.keep it up
hollandrain
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written by hollandrain , May 16, 2009
Good for you baby!
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