My Pregnancy

ImageMy name is Candice and I'm 20 years old. I like to share my story with others because it really shows that no matter what, you can do this and no matter what, you're not alone. I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant and very excited for this baby to come! However, my boyfriend, not so much. We've been together for 5 years and definitely had our ups and downs but one thing we always shared was truly loving each other. He joined the service and I couldn't have been prouder of him. He was following his dreams. When he got back, we went away to separate schools and survived that. Then a year ago we moved in together. Things were good for a while, but as usual something was getting in the way of us being truly happy. Well, we tried to work things out for several months and it seemed that everything was finally going to work out.

 

Well, the second week of June came around and I found out I was pregnant. I've been on birth control for 3 years and knew how to take it properly. However, I forgot to take it 3 days in a row and bam, I became pregnant. I was really nervous to tell my significant other, but finally got up the courage to do so. His first reaction wasn't really a reaction at all. He was just kinda like, "Ummm, really? Okay." So the next day I made him sit down with me and tell me how he really felt about it. He was terrified as most men are when they first hear the news. He said that he'd be there for me and the baby and I was over the moon. For once, things were going to be good. Well, 2 weeks later I came home from work and all of his things were gone. He called me a few days later to tell me that he wasn't ready for a baby and if I wasn't going to have an abortion then he couldn't be with me anymore. I thought about this for a while. I really wanted him in my life, but I also already loved this baby so much. After no contact with him for about a week, I made the decision to keep my baby. I told him that I was keeping it and I really haven't heard from him since.

Ladies, when it comes to pregnancy you need to do what's right for you! Not your parents, or boyfriend, or even friends. This decision is ultimately yours and you can do whatever you feel is right in your heart. You don't need a man to help you through it and remember this, anyone can be a father. But it takes a special man to be a Dad. Also, support lies all around you. My family and friends have been great support for me throughout this entire pregnancy so far and whenever I do feel alone, I look at my growing belly and remind myself that I made the best decision for me and I have more love for this baby than I ever thought possible.



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written by hannah.brady29 , November 03, 2011
Candice, you made the right decision smilies/smiley.gif You are a very strong and loving woman. Your child will be so lucky to have a mother like you! I have no doubt that things will work out for you and your baby!
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written by vicki bowen , October 30, 2011
if any1 cud accept dis plz did u bring up blood wen u was pregnant if so cud u email me bback plz
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written by ~iloveyou~ , October 28, 2011
smilies/grin.gif i'll pray for you girl my god bless you
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written by Meg11 , October 19, 2011
Dear Thuto, My name is Meg and I volunteer on the site! Hormonal contraceptions can play funny tricks on your body, depending on how long ago you had your last injection, it could simply be the birth control making you feel that you are pregnant and also causing you to not have a period....I am not a doctor so I cannot advise you in medical areas however I think this is something you should talk to your doctor about, skipping periods and feeling pregnant.....I am so sorry to hear about your loss....How does your bf feel about you wanting a baby right now? I am here for you if you want to visit and chat about this or any other life issues as well as you should always feel free to write Becky with personal questions....I hope to hear from you and I want to help you sort your feelings out and help you channel your future plans onto the most successful path! Love Meg, meg@standupgirl.com
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written by thandingcobo , October 18, 2011
my name is Thuto, i was pregnant 2008 and i had a miscarriage from there i started to use contraceptive injection because i was still at school. i decided to stop taking the injection because i was gaining weight so now i want to have a child but i cant, Ive tried so many things but none of it is working.sometimes i feel like am pregnant because i skip my period
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written by Margret , October 08, 2011
Hey ladies. My name is margaret. I had sex in august when it was september I didnt have a period. This month I got my period it was I was light it lasted for about three days now im feeling sick like I have to throw up.i feel qeasuy.
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thnx u made me change my mind about this pregancy
written by smr , October 04, 2011
I'm pregnant with a married man's child, He doesn't have time for me but I'm gonna keep this baby anyway
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you have some amazing courage
written by believer in life , October 03, 2011
this post just made me cry, i am a 16 year old girl who has never had a pregnancy scare or anything like that but i am a deep believer in pro life and stoping abortion. i am a catholic and just finished writing a mock letter to my mayor about putting a stop to abortion for an assignment in my catholic social justice class. righting this paper and after doing some research i became very upset and realized how evil this really is. your story is very powerful and shows that some people understand and tak eon the responsibilities of there actions. thanks you
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im extremley proud of you
written by mother of 2 , October 01, 2011
what you said is true and in life its hard but i can see that you are strong positivelady with so much ambition. keep your head up strong and the lord will guide take care
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written by julie nanvuma , October 01, 2011
you have given me courage and thanks for being a strong woman .God bless you always
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written by mk12 , September 30, 2011
congratulations! I must have made it. I just left everything and stayed myself.
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written by Lindie , September 30, 2011
thank you gal, I was about to abort my baby because I was afraid of my family and to lose my boyfriend but now I've taken my decision that I keep the baby because I love him and I don't have to kill inorder to save my relationship or maybe that will make him realize that I am a superwoman
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written by sindie , September 29, 2011
i ve got no comment this the rigth thing when u share the pregnancy with other people congraculation ladies
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written by Lei-swar , September 26, 2011
smilies/angry.gifU GAVE M HOPE!
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