On With My Life
Having read over many of the letters written by young beautiful girls, I hope that my letter will help. When I found out I was pregnant in 1972, I was 14 years old (I am now 53), abortions were illegal in Michigan. A friend of the family took me to a place where they were being performed anyway, at that time I just wanted this to be over, to be able to go back home and continue "my life" as it had never happened. After being examined I was told to get dressed and return to the waiting room, I would soon find out I was almost 6 months pregnant.
I had always been irregular, and hadn't even had a period for very long, so a few months without one seemed like no big deal. 6 months??? needless to say I did not have an abortion, I was terrified, I believed my family would be so ashamed, I was so ashamed, I asked spirit to help me, to guide me, to stand with me.... I attended a school for unwed mothers, continued my education, met some very beautiful other girls and had my son in 1973. With much help and support from my family, we lived a happy life. There are many emotional changes however, that I was not prepared for. He became my whole world, the pride I had for him helped mask the shame I still (unconsciously) carried for myself. I buried myself in him, and as he got older and didn't need me as much, I was lost emotionally. The reason I want to share this is so that others may take this journey day by day, keeping their independence and teaching the same to their child. I have learned that our job as a parent is to teach our children to be a self sufficient, educated, loving, giving, growing individual. To always be there for them and yet to be ready and willing to push them out of the nest when the time is right. And to the girls who have gotten abortions, don't continue to beat yourselves up, you did what you had to do at that time. Let that time go with love. In your heart and mind, send it off to the heavens with a loving heart and don't look back. I would hate to see you get to be my age and still carry the guilt and pain with you, we only have one time around here and everything has a lesson in it, yours may have been forgiveness, forgiveness for yourself. Take a deep breath, hold your head high and continue to grow and learn. Help others that may be in need....Love is the common element that we all need.
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written by tamara , August 24, 2011
written by didintle , August 24, 2011
sometimes i wish i could have done things differently i wish i could have waited till i was older before having sexual intercourse pity its late i have already meseed up my lie written by tk , August 24, 2011
written by Nonts , August 24, 2011
written by Ashleii , August 23, 2011
As I am 14, and my baby is due in November. At first we were going to get an abortion and now my boyfriend regrets it so much. (I never wanted one) And now we decided to keep pour little one and we can't wait to meet it!
I will be finding out what the sex is on the 31st of this month. And I will be going back to school in September until the baby comes, and then going back as soon as I am ready.
It is defffinetly going to be difficult but with all the help and support I am getting I know I can manage.
There are deffinetly going to be a lot of emotions as well, as I am already expirencing many being almost 28 weeks pregnant.
ps. I just recently told my mom I was pregnant about a week ago.
written by miles hael , August 19, 2011
written by Meg11 , August 17, 2011
written by afraid and scared , August 16, 2011
im 16 and i've never had sex. but im afraid that i could be pregnant, because my boyfriend and i often fool around (fingering, oral etc), and im scared that maybe he got sperm on his fingers and then he fingered me? my period is late, i got my last one on july 12th and there is usually 30 days or so in between each one. I'm also really confused because 4 days ago my boyfriend fingered me in the shower and i noticed blood came out of my vagina (which i assumed as the start of my period), so i used a tampon as per usual. but when i went to change it i noticed there was only a small amount of blood on it (unusual for my first day), so i thought that maybe i was stressed and that i was just having a lighter one. but when i changed it the second time there was no blood on the tampon at all..and since then i have not had any blood. is it possible that this could have been spotting? or maybe my boyfriend scratched the inside of my vagina? it is not sore or anything? please help im very scared.
written by Nikolaa1994 , July 26, 2011
written by christy551 , July 17, 2011
written by firdous , March 02, 2011
Please get a early detection pregnancy test kit or you can go to a clinic for pregnancy test serum (through blood test)...it will help you determine your present status and will also help you decide what you need and want to do at this moment.
written by JOSTE , February 13, 2011
written by Ashlee Carley , February 09, 2011
i had an abortion on the 6th of jan, and also had the implonon put it while i had the abortion, so i didnt think i could fall pregnant again,but my boyfriend and i were sexualy active one week after the abortion. now 5 weeks after the abortion im getting symptoms of pregnantcy again, everyone thinks im being stupid and i shouldnt worrie about it, can anyone pleas tell me what the chances are of falling pregnant after abortion with the implonon?? someone pleas help!!
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