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Jun 10
2010

Hard Choices

Posted by moosicgurly in unprotected sex

moosicgurly

I am 22 years old and about 8-9 weeks pregnant. I haven't decided what I am going to do yet because its a very weird situation. I have an abortion october of 2009 and although it was rough it was the easiest decision for me and my boyfriend at the time. After that I had some issues my prolactin wouldn't regulate and I wasn't sure if I would even be able to have kids. Since then, we have tried different types of birth control only to find out that I am allergic to the lactose and hormone used to create birth control so we have been using the rhythm method ever since. I first discovered I was pregnant about 4 weeks ago when I missed my period but I started bleeding very heavily soon after and my doctor told me that I was having a miscarriage and that if I was bleeding terribly the chances of survival were slim to none. Still, when I went in for my check up that week my HCG level was at a 2 . The next tuesday I went in for another follow up because I chose to miscarry naturally without a D&C and my HCG level was at a 4. On Saturday I found out it was at a 11. So it turned out that I was pregnant with twins but I lost one. After dealing with all of this my boyfriend has been right there for me. He has been very supportive and helped me with all of this but when I mentioned to him that I wanted to keep this baby he freaked out. Which I guess is to be expected and he reasoning was just that we aren't ready. Which is true to some degree but we know that we are going to get married and be together so thats no really an issue he just wants our lives to be stable before adding kids to the mix. And its complicated because my parents are super religious and his mother got pregnant fairly early so I get where he's coming from but is it wrong for me to want this baby so bad. As far as practicality goes, I have one maybe two more semesters of college left but I work and make more than enough money to support a child and he has already graduated. And sure my finances are a bit more flexible than his but should that stop me from having a baby. I just would like to hear some feedback because he is a great guy and he will stand by me regardless but is what he's saying true. There is no doubt in my mind that we will get married and have children later on so because of that should I just let this one go? Please let me know what you think.

Mar 31
2009

My Story

Posted by tspeegle09 in young , unprotected sex , single , My Story , my baby , love , drama , confused and pregnant , confused , college , Christian , catholic , boyfriend , birth , alone , afraid , acceptance

tspeegle09

I was a Junior in college when I found out I was pregnant -- just over 20 years old, with my entire future ahead of me.  I had been seeing the father of my baby for almost 3 years.  I was very deeply in love with him and at one time I thought that we would spend the rest of our lives together.  But our relationship had always been tumultuous.  He was emotionally unstable and

Dec 20
2008

Parent's Don't Know

Posted by vampireluver in young , unprotected sex , ultrasound , therapy , telling parents , stress , sorrow , single , silent crying , scared , regret , pregnant , lost , lonely , i thought i was looking after myself , Hurt , God , friends , depressed , catholic , Biggest Struggle of My Life , bf , babys father , alone , afraid , 14 and scared and pregnant

vampireluver
I'm 3 months pregnant and my parents don't know.  i think there starting to wonder why I'm gaining weight.  I know I'm pregnant because I've went to a doctor and a therapist. My therapist says I should tell my parents that I'm pregnant but I don't know how to.  They'd be so disapointed in me.  I'm there perfect little girl. It wasn't
Dec 19
2008

I never knew, I never thought it would be me

Posted by killabortion in unprotected sex , my baby , More than I can say , miscarraige , lost , lonely , Lifes tough we can get through , ex-bf , babys father , and confused , 14

killabortion

I used to think the most horrible thing a woman could go through was when someone she loved left her, but now I know that it's when she looses something that grows inside of her, a tiny little thing that she created- dies. Especially if it happens to her twice. I never thought I would be the pregnant girl I never thought any of that would ever happen to me, worse yet I didn't even know when it was happening.

 

There I was 14, sad and alone. That night my boyfriend had just broken up with me, I had found out

Dec 08
2008

unwanted pregnancy

Posted by nday in unprotected sex

nday

i am still confused what to decide on myself, i am working in a place where its part of the middle east, where pregnancy without marriage and abortion is really not allowed and againts the law. I am a mother of one child with my husband back in my hometown and they dont know what i've been through until now not anyone of my family or close friends. I never know i will get pregnant

Sep 08
2008

An angel and a child

Posted by ProudTeenMom in young , unprotected sex , sex , Pregnancy , My Story , miscarriage , i made that choice , Family , ex-bf , cancer , Biggest Struggle of My Life

ProudTeenMom

Everything began in July of 2005. Everything was going great, I had met the guy of my dreams. But, we had decided a little to soon that sex would be a big part of our relationship. I loved him, so I did as much as I could for him.

It just so happens that in August of 2005, I was put on Yaz by my doctor for my irregular periods and heavy bleeding with very painful cramps. Chirs (the boy of

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