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im 9 weeks pregnant and im 15...my parents dont know yet and it feels like the biggest weight to carry because it is like mental agony. i've never kept something this big from my mom. and the fact that my boyfriends parents hate him and yell at him constantly about stuff he has done in the past. i've already had 2 mental breakdowns in the past 2 weeks..im so scared. im so stressed. and at the same time im so happy because i have my boyfriend to support me. i just need to tell them but i dont know how...
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written by anna.be.real1 , December 02, 2007
ITS NEVER THE RIGHT TIME BUT REMMBER THIS IS WHAT PARENTS ARE FOR JUST WALK WITH YOUR HEAD HIGH AND LET THEM KNOW YOU GOING TO BE A MOMMY EITHER THEY LOVE IT OR HATE IT EITHER WAY THEY WILL BE THERE CAUSE LIKE THE LIL ONE IN UR TUMMY UR THEIR CHILD
written by xAmyx , December 01, 2007
Hey!! ur gna have to tel ur mum she mitght help u!! do wahteva is best for the baby!!
written by dorismay , November 30, 2007
Hi
What happens when you have a mental breakdown?
What happens when you have a mental breakdown?
written by Kimberley1701 , November 29, 2007
hey,
I know how u feel i was so scared when I found out I was preg especially when I found out it was twins.
I told my bf and he went nuts cos his ex was already pregnant with his baby. He want me to have an abortion, on the day i was due to go he dumpeed me at hospital n left me but I didnt want it. When i got in i found out i was 22weeks not 14 and that i was having twins. They told me at hosp i would have ti go ti london for the operation as its more complicated I cudnt stop crying I didnt want it ti happne!
I got my mums friend to tell her i just couldnt. She was ok at first but then pushed me into having an abortion. Please what ever u do dont let people force u into it!!! I still cant cope with wat happened n my mum threw me out cos she cant cope with my emotions havin gbeen forced into it.
JUst tell ur parents along make sure u have someone there to support u n make sure they know what U want not wat they thinks best cos that 99% isnt rigth!!!
If u need to talk more my hotmail is kbain@hotmail.co.uk
Kimxxx
I know how u feel i was so scared when I found out I was preg especially when I found out it was twins.
I told my bf and he went nuts cos his ex was already pregnant with his baby. He want me to have an abortion, on the day i was due to go he dumpeed me at hospital n left me but I didnt want it. When i got in i found out i was 22weeks not 14 and that i was having twins. They told me at hosp i would have ti go ti london for the operation as its more complicated I cudnt stop crying I didnt want it ti happne!
I got my mums friend to tell her i just couldnt. She was ok at first but then pushed me into having an abortion. Please what ever u do dont let people force u into it!!! I still cant cope with wat happened n my mum threw me out cos she cant cope with my emotions havin gbeen forced into it.
JUst tell ur parents along make sure u have someone there to support u n make sure they know what U want not wat they thinks best cos that 99% isnt rigth!!!
If u need to talk more my hotmail is kbain@hotmail.co.uk
Kimxxx
written by Kripa , November 29, 2007
Dear,
I feel that You should talk this over to your mom, since u've said she knows most of your things. There would be no one as understanding and caring as your parents, in this case. You are young and you need help. dont get upset and lost. This is the world we live in. it's just part of life. Tell your mom that u were hiding it out of fear and that u believe that she will handle this situation most wisely. Let me tell u one more thing sweety, there is no point in hiding...how long can u do that? so just pray n rise up above your fears and talk this over....ok?
I feel that You should talk this over to your mom, since u've said she knows most of your things. There would be no one as understanding and caring as your parents, in this case. You are young and you need help. dont get upset and lost. This is the world we live in. it's just part of life. Tell your mom that u were hiding it out of fear and that u believe that she will handle this situation most wisely. Let me tell u one more thing sweety, there is no point in hiding...how long can u do that? so just pray n rise up above your fears and talk this over....ok?
written by 11mizzLADY11 , November 28, 2007
I understand what you're going through because i didn't know how to tell my mom that i was pregnant.....But don't wait to late to tell them the news because it's going to hurt them worse by you telling them to late then now so they can help you now.
written by prego2 , November 28, 2007
well you need to calm down.
i know what your going through.
i am 15 and i have a 2 month old baby.
it will be tough, but i told my mom at dinner when my stepdad wasn't there. just tell her that you need to talk to her and then just come out and say it. she will be mad at first but then she will calm down and be excited that she will have a grandchild. i hope everything works out and i am here for you.
i know what your going through.
i am 15 and i have a 2 month old baby.
it will be tough, but i told my mom at dinner when my stepdad wasn't there. just tell her that you need to talk to her and then just come out and say it. she will be mad at first but then she will calm down and be excited that she will have a grandchild. i hope everything works out and i am here for you.
written by breathless , November 28, 2007
Don't wait too long. It could be as bad as you think it might be or it could be great, you'll never know until you do it. I'm 15 too and I just had my son on the 30th of October, tell them girl you'll feel so much better.
written by MzLady22 , November 28, 2007
i know it seems like the scariest thing in the world to tell them but the sooner you do the sooner you can relax and they can get over it and be happy for you. if you cant face them then write a letter to them, leave it somewhere they will find it and leave the house for a little while. it will give them time to calm down before talking to you. or you could bring your boyfriend with you to tell them and have him there to hold your hand. basically there is no easy way to tell them. maybe you could try to turn it into a good thing like give then a tshirt that says number one grandma and when they see it then you could tell them.. idk how theyd take that though. i always thought that would be funny. well goodluck to you girl. just remember, it will all be over with soon and you can be happy and start planning for your baby
written by mommytoele , November 28, 2007
Please tell her/your family- I was 15, scared and pregnant too... Here's my web site:
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please look at the different options... on how to tell her.
Nicki
http://teen-mom.tripod.com
please look at the different options... on how to tell her.
Nicki
written by dorismay , November 27, 2007
Maybe you could say to your mum and dad "You need to sit down, I've got something really bad to tell you". They will be angry to begin with, confused and shocked maybe but they will probably rally round and help you.
If they have had an abortion in their past they may try to make you have an abortion but be strong for you, and your man and your baby. Let me know how you get on.
All the best dorismay
If they have had an abortion in their past they may try to make you have an abortion but be strong for you, and your man and your baby. Let me know how you get on.
All the best dorismay
written by randomchyck220 , November 27, 2007
just relax. stress isnt good for the baby. besides, you need to tell your parents eventually, and you cant control their reactions, so you might as well tell them. Expect the worst, hope for the best.
written by littllenikki , November 27, 2007
hey hun... i can sorta relate.. my boyfriend had next to no relationship with his parents and they just fought non stop and they tell him wat a bad son he is and wat not...
i didnt exactly tell my parents.. my mom found the scans but hun u need to just tell them.. the stress is so bad for u and baby... my bf told his parents the day after.. he told his older sister and then in turn she helped him tell his parents...
understandably things were hard for a while.. i mean really hard theyll worry for ur future and its onli cos they love you theyll get mad anfd/or upset... but once things calm down itll be ALLOT bettr...
now my parents do know .. things are a MILLION times bettr..my bf is actually trying at skul and got a job and him and his parents never got on better, AND weve a healthy 33week old baby on the way...
my one regret is not tellin my mom.... it really affected the way she saw our relationship... she thinks i dont trust her.. but just at the time my dad was so sick with cancer and i was terrified theyd make me abort...but they didnt they still support me and are excited about their grandchild even if their still reluctant to admit it..
so pleas tell them so u and baby can get the support and medical care u need...
things will be ok and im here if u ever wanna talk... sorry if thats too long.. best of luck
Nikki
xxx
i didnt exactly tell my parents.. my mom found the scans but hun u need to just tell them.. the stress is so bad for u and baby... my bf told his parents the day after.. he told his older sister and then in turn she helped him tell his parents...
understandably things were hard for a while.. i mean really hard theyll worry for ur future and its onli cos they love you theyll get mad anfd/or upset... but once things calm down itll be ALLOT bettr...
now my parents do know .. things are a MILLION times bettr..my bf is actually trying at skul and got a job and him and his parents never got on better, AND weve a healthy 33week old baby on the way...
my one regret is not tellin my mom.... it really affected the way she saw our relationship... she thinks i dont trust her.. but just at the time my dad was so sick with cancer and i was terrified theyd make me abort...but they didnt they still support me and are excited about their grandchild even if their still reluctant to admit it..
so pleas tell them so u and baby can get the support and medical care u need...
things will be ok and im here if u ever wanna talk... sorry if thats too long.. best of luck
Nikki
xxx
written by KylieAUS , November 27, 2007
Well if you are 9 weeks, you need to tell somebody because you will need antenatal care. Do you think your mother will be supportive? Tell her that you are, that you are keeping it (sounds like you were planning on it?)and would appreciate some help and support. Many parents take time to adjust, but are soon looking forward to the arrival of their grandbaby.
written by momtocolton , November 27, 2007
Just sit them down and tell them you are pregnant no need to bet around the bush they will find out sooner than later.. You don't want someone else to tell them first.. They are going to be disappointed, mad, sad, and all that but they do love you... I would just tell them or tell your mom and have her tell your dad.. Your parents will get over the hurt and will forgive and be excited hopefully.. You need their support too.. I hope that everything works out for you and you are doing the right thing by telling them... Wish you the best...
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