Hi,
just want a few bits of advice im 22 years old just found out im pregnant but my husband has now decided he dosent want the baby so he has given me an ultmatom him or the baby? if i keep the baby he is going to walk away from our 5 year relationship! what do i do????

Hey sweetie!!! Men don't ever know what they have ubtil it's gone. I believe that God blessed you BOTH with this beautiful baby-to-be NOT to tear you apart. He could just be worried about medical, financial, etc. and thinks that the best way to stay stress free is to get rid of it before anything starts pilling up. I had a 2 yr relationship with my boyfriend got pregnant twice lost a child and he broke up with me both times. Yeah that's a lot but I would not of been through that if I couldn't handle it, ya know? Just recently last night he was saying that he doesn't want to be without me and the baby...Im 7mths on Tuesday....it took him two pregnancies and 7mths to realize what he's suppose to do. Give the young man some time to let it all soak in. When fear of the unknown sets in a lot of things become un accomplished. I have faith that that baby you're carrying will be loved to no end by BOTH of his/her PARENTS!!!!
Good Luck and Keep \"US\" posted. Enjoy life and stay stress free!!!

~*~SOON-TO-BE MOMMY OF A BEAUTIFUL BABY BOY!!!~*~

Kelly, listen I will not claim to know the answer but, with an ulltimatum like that, it scares me to know what's really going on. The only answer I have for you is prayer. Pray to God like never before and find you some good wise support persons. Because either decision will stick with you for the rest of your life the same with that man that's your husband. A question you really need to ask is, What is in my husband's heart? Is he really for me and this relationship?Because this man isn't someone your just with this is someone who has stood before God and people and made a vow with you that come hell or high water he's sticking with you to the end. You have to do what you feel at peace with inside yourself, what brings you an innermost peace is your answer. Will that man stay with you inspite of 'his' feelings at the time; he may just be scared, if not it's time to reevalaute the situation with the help of God.
Be encouraged!

Leave him, the baby is more important.There are more men otu there!!

well first of all i think what he's doing is stupid! Why wouldnt someone want a baby? Its a precious gift from god! But if i were you i'd keep da baby! In my opinion \" i dont care who you are but, to me my child comes before anything and anyone! It doesnt matter who you are, even if you are the father of my child, THE BABY COMES FIRST!!!\" Am i right or not?
~AnGeL~

lilangel2oo6 wrote:


I think u r right.No mather what,
you should keep the baby and if u don't
want to give it up for abdoption,if u can.