Hi my name is Tara and i just found out about 3 weeks ago that i am pregnant with my boyfriend, Dons, baby. The problem is, is that i dont know if im in love with him. See, we are supposed to get married in august after i turn 18 but i dont want to make the mistake of marrying someone i dont really love....I just really wish i knew if i was in love or not. I want my baby to have a mother AND a father though, plus i havent even graduated from high school, i have been out of school for about 3 months and im heading toward getting my GED, but if i dont stay with my boyfriend i am going to want to go back to school to get my high school diploma...PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me i am desperate and need to know what to do..... Thanks....

Hi Tara!

My name is Rachel and I help Becky out some here on the website.

I am 19 now, but I had my daughter when I was 16. Me and my boyfriend dated for a long time before I got pregnant, and I thought I loved him but I wasn't sure if he was the one I was supposed to marry. I cared a lot about him, and I wanted the best for him but I felt like it was the right thing for me to marry him. I thought that if I didn't marry him, then my situation as a young single mom would be worse. I was raised in a strict Christian home and I thought that being 16 and pregnant was bad enough, but I thought that being in that situation and being unmarried would be looked down upon so much more.

Today I still live with my mom and my daughter is three. I'm in college, and I work too to provide what I can for my daughter. I didn't get married to her father then and I can tell you now, that was one of the best decisions I've ever made. Two wrongs don't make a right. I would be completely miserable if I married him, and it would have ended up in divorce. It would have been way more stress and even more of an emotional rollercoaster than it already was.

Think about it and make the right decision, and don't base your decisions on what you think other people want you to do or what your boyfriend wants, or what you think your parents want. Think about how your relationship would be in a marriage with him. Think about how that would affect your baby. You can always get married later, but getting pregnant and having a baby does not mean you have to get married to the guy.

You can email me anytime if you want to talk. I'd love to hear from you!

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Love,
Rachel

I was in school to when i found put I was preganant. I was 18 and had just started my first year of college. ij choose to have this baby she is no 6 1/2 months old she is a very beautiful girl and I cant see myt self living without her. her name is angel. guees what else I am perganant again and guess what I am having this baby to because me personally I did research and sean the pictuers of abortions and it rea;;y is something I cannot do . so either you can hove this baby if you dont trust your boyfirend put him on child support i myself would not do the abotion thing. if you do have this baby you will see that you did make the right decision and you wont be dissappionted.