Hey girl, I happened to run across this website and I saw your message. My name is Sara, and I'm 22 now, but I can remember being scared the way you are right now. The first thing you have to realize is that there are THREE people involved, and you have to do what is best for ALL of them. Your boyfriend might be scared like you, or angry, but you both have to be as adult-like as you can right now. You are young, and so hiding this is about the worst thing you could do. There are so many people out their who want to help you. try the pregnancy help line on this website. Talk to a trusted adult who can be objective--a priest or minister is a great person. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't go through with this pregnancy just because you are too young. Sex is an adult act, so you have to deal with the consequences like an adult. Next you have to think about you. Yes, you are pretty young, but there are options for you. You can get an abortion, but for the rest of your life, you will remember that day (the day you ended your child's life) rather than having a day to rememeber as your child's birthday. I am a huge fan of open adoptions--this means that you allow someone to adopt your baby (give him or her two stable parents in a good home) and you might still be able to keep in contact or visit every now and then. You mentioned Plan B. I am in my second year of pharmacy school right now and I have a test over that drug on Monday. Let me tell you, it probably isn't a good option for you. Plan B is a really high dose of hormones (a lot higher than what your body is used to or needs). Plan B basically starves this tiny little being in your body. If you had sex and are already pregnant, then that tiny beginning person is already growing. He or she is trying to get important nutrients from your body, but the drugs in Plan B make your uterus unable to nourish the growing little being. Essentially, he or she starves and dies. This brings me to the third person involved in this all: the tiny baby growing in you. He or she deserves to live. He or she shouldn't have life ended for any reason. This baby deserves a happy home and life and two stable parents. You may or may not be able to provide that. But as a mother, it is your DUTY to make sure that your baby has that. If you have a supportive family you might be able to do that. You have to make a choice to be unselfish and put your child first. If you can't provide that kind of a life, then you might talk to an adoption agency that can let you be a part of picking out adoptive parents. This is a beautiful gift to give both your child and another set of parents out there somewhere. It is the most courageous, unselfish thing you could ever do in a situation like yours. So give it some thought! But remember that you have to do what is best for everyone--that means every deserves to live and they deserve to live happy with their life and with the decisions they made.
Good Luck. Be Brave. Be Strong. Make the best decision for everyone involved. I know you don't know me, but I will be thinking about you and praying for you! You can make it through this! If you make the best decision, then 10 years from now, you can look back and be proud of yourself, and your child will be proud of you too!
love, sara
