I don't know about the appropriateness of this post, but I really feel many people have some misconceptions about modern adoption. My wife and I have been in process of adopting for several years now, and I have found that the rumors still persist and the reality is still a mystery. I will not say where we are registered with or in any way try to advertise for our agency, or ourselves. I just want to be a source of information.

My wife and I are people who research everything. The one thing that I think women considering adoption should know is that the only adoptions in the US that are closed, are ones through Social Services. IE the mother has no contact with the baby or knowledge of where the child is because they took the baby for abuse or neglect. All other adoptions are open to some extent. The one who really usually chooses how open the adoptions are is the woman who gave birth to the child. I have some friends who adopted several years ago, and they have made sure to keep in contact with the agency. The birthmother however has lost contact. Most adoptions today are like this or even closer. Many families end up being friends. I know that I cannot not understand how hard it would be to even consider giving a child up, but I think that the decision should be made with good accurate information not with rumors, myths and fears. I hope this helps someone, and please feel free to ask me anything. standupgirl.com/web//components/com_fire.../emoticons/smile.png

Hi, Ummmm, I'm not sue I understand your post. By the way, I am a birth mother who was just reading the topics and this one caught my eye. My relationship with the adoptive parents is amazing. I could move down the street from them and see my son every day. A lot of what plays into a working relationship between the birth parents is how the adoptive parents handle things. I know that I was very fortunate to know the family ahead of time and that my situation could qualify as almost freaky but it's great!!! My son is 3 months old now and He lives in Ny and I in Az. Talk about long distance! I talk to him on the phone and we skpye occasionally. If you want any thoughts from and girl who's made the better choice to give her son up so he could have a daddy and a great life I would love to chat! Take care and good luck with the adoption!!!

Hi, I'm not sure I understand the nature of your post either. I will say, though, that I was adopted and have a great relationship with my adoptive parents. I don't know any of the circumstances regarding my adoption, and I've never met my birth parents, nor do I intend to. I've always considered my adoptive parents as my only parents - they've given me a great life, and I have no intentions of seeking out the people that gave me up. Obviously, I have the option, being over 18, to find my "parents," but that's not something I desire, and I'm not sure how other adopted children feel about this, but I know that it's not something that bothers me about my relationship with my family at all.