I'm sort of lost, maybe some of you girls can help me out? I just don't understand the logic behind wanting a baby so badly at such a young age. How does a 17-year old, 16-year old and even as young as 14 want a baby so badly that they totally disregard the resources and ability to care for a child on their own? I know not every girl has that fuzzy warm dream of having the perfect wedding with the perfect husband, and eventually buying a house and having perfect kids and everything, but how do you know that you are ready to have a kid when you are still considered by society a kid yourself?

I'm not trying to sound like a jerk or come off brash; I'm truly intrigued to know. I've experienced first-hand coming very close to almost having a baby with my ex-girlfriend, but it ended with a miscarriage, and our amazing relationship went sour shortly after. She wanted to have a baby so badly at such a young age and I just didn't understand it.

hey im 15 and 30weeks preg, my pregnancy was totally unexpected so the reply to ur question will not be from my own experience, but rather from just being a female!

women.. or as u refer to us \"girls\" feel a longing to be a mother, a deep want, a totally normal and natural thing.. it occurs to all girls at different ages and stages in our lives, some younger then others but we go through it non the less...its just that some girls choose to answer that call and longing and decide to fulfil their motherly craving, sometimes with disreguard of finance housing etc.. and some will choose to wait...

im sorry, to you this must sound so illogical and soo corky, but you, being a guy, should know thst its hard to explain women in general soo its even harder to explain a womans emotion, i guess u would have to be one urself to get a full understanding, but since thats not even an option (LOL) i hope ive helped you to get a better understanding...

actually, even as a female i dont understand it either.
i know that it is natural to want to be a mother but mothers should do everything possible to take the best care of their children and that includes knowing that at a young age it is impossible to give a child everything that they need and it is irresponisble to expect anyone else to.
Becoming pregnant by accident forces us to face such things and do the best possible job but purposely getting pregnant before a girl is stable in life makes me so sad for them and for the baby... not because they cant do it but because young girls should feel like life is just beginning, not that everything has to be done right away!
It is crazy how young girls are having sex and once you do that for long enough, accident are bound to happen! I started at 15- what was i thinking? It doesnt matter what i, or any other girl thinks or says, we arent ready, its not the right time, and we dont really know what all is out there enough to have a baby. Annnd girls should really try and wait... geez atleast until 16 to have sex! that even sounds too young but it would help so very much because most girls on this site have seen the effects of having sex early.
Girls wanting babies so early is a sign of immaturity and not maturity because if they were mature, they would be thinking about what happens later in life and the life of their child before anything else.

I would have to agree with nadza. It is instilled in a woman biologically -- we just want to have babies. Have you ever noticed even in daycare three year old girls playing with dolls being mummy, feeding them, putting them to sleep? I'm not saying all girls are like that, I for one climbed trees and fell into ditches when I was growing up instead, but that's the norm.
I always wanted a baby, even before I had my rags (sorry for the bluntness) or had sex, although I did think of it in terms of the future. But I can understand why other people want to have babies at a younger age -- I always wanted my first at 20, but I ended up being pregnant at 16. And you know, I felt ready. I still don't feel too young, and I'm 19. I woulnd't call us premature. Premature means not mature enough -- and premature girls can't get pregnant because they are physically not mature enough. When one is emotionally mature enough I don't think you could cut off somebody at 16 and say -- you're not emotionally mature. Everybody's different. I felt mature enough.
And I don't believe that you can't raise children well when you're young. Everyone in my family other than my mother had their first just after hitting 20 -- I know, it's a bit older than the teens, but that's just how it was. Some people feel ready, other's don't.
Especially in Western culture (I'm not meaning to offend anyone but it's true) 'raising' a child properly usually means giving them the two-storey house and a lot of other material things. Geez, if my ancestors could even dream of that, living in communal flats with other families! I really can't agree with kaileyamanda that young girls aren't ready. I was, even if it wasn't planned. I find it hard to understand how women at 14 can be ready -- because I was a virgin then and just couldn't imagine it, and I find it hard to understand why people who are 30 don't feel ready either sometimes. But just because I don't fully understand their point of view, doesn't mean that it's not legitimate.

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Maybe it is to do with wanting to be cared for as a baby. A deeply felt and ancient longing going back to her own babylife. Then there is a strong drive to life that females experience, if the female is from a neglecting home situation she is unlikely to have sufficient social skills and education in place to work out the reality from the fairytale. She wants the dream life, add to this a boy coming on with a lot of interest and she thinks it is love and falls for the oldest con \"I love you and will care for you\".

Well, for some of us it happened unexpectedly, but I was the one who didnt really do anything to prevent it from happening. So I was on the birth control pill, i stopped taking it for a while, met my babys daddy and during that time i liked the thought of getting pregnant, having a life growing inside of me, having someone to love and care for, someone that would also depend on me. Now I'm 4 and a half months pregnant, and i don't regret it exactly but i feel so stupid for wanting a baby when i didnt really fully understand what i would endure. I never thought about my eduation either, I'm 17 and im in high school, I stayed back two years, once in 7th grade and once in 9th, and now im paying for it by spending another 2 extra years in school. I had been thinking lately about dropping out, but now im trying to focus again and just stick it out. So i want to discourage those 14, 15+ girls who want babies from getting pregnant, but then i guess id be some sort of hippocrite.