I just discovered less than a week ago that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I'm 20 years old, a freshman in college, and have a wonderful, loving boyfriend.

I was the one that brought up abortion, and at first, the boyfriend clearly said no. I respected that. I said we'd have the baby.

I've been crying constantly. I'm pulled between wanting to bring this little life into the world, and wanting to finish college and live my life as I normally would.

I made the appointment today, but now that it's made, I'm having BIG second thoughts.

Now the roles have reversed it seems. I'm now very VERY reluctant to have the abortion, but my boyfriend is encouraging it, saying it's for the best. I know that we could do this. It would be rough, but we could manage, but it scares me to death.

It's my fault for suggesting it in the first place, because now, that's what he wants, and he doesn't seem to want to hear me cry and question what we're doing. I'm informing him I'm having doubts. I'm informing him that I'm going insane. He assures me we'll be fine. But now, I really don't think I could live with myself if I did this.

It's just rough, I know he loves me, but he runs away when I begin to become upset and question the rightness of the apointment. He doesn't want to deal with a woman that's an emotional wreck. He tells me not to worry, that we can have other children when we're more prepared.

I don't know what to do. But I do know I'm starting to go a little nuts. I'm more confused than I've ever been. This is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.

God help me.

I'm 21 and preg with my 2nd child..this one is a boy (36 wks)...my daughter is 18 mos...do me a favor and look at the images on my profile and let me know if you still want the abortion also theres a video you can watch on abortion on this site..why would anybody want to do that to their child it made so sick to watch the video and now i know how it would change minds of women/girls considering it.......its so horrible..i look at how much my daughter has grown and how smart she is and I'm happy that i didnt take her life.....My fiancee and i are barely scrapping by but we wouldnt change our decision for anything...I was 19 when i had my daughter and my fiancee was 21 and now almost 2 yrs later are so much in love our daughter and cant wait for the arrival of our son which the drs said could be any day now...PLZ dont take your childs life no matter what your bf says...my fiancee thought abortion would take care of everything....at the first ultrasound and the first time he heard her little heart beating full of life at just 10 wks he cried and told me he was sorry for his reaction and couldnt wait to welcome our angel and couldnt wait till she arrived and then coudlnt wait for the next one..i know when your bf sees that first image of the life growing inside you he will change his mind.....PLZ dont have the abortion..you will regret it and sometimes you can be permantly scarred and made infertile...think about what i have said and make the right decision!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

honey, if it is something you are questioning, then don't do it. go with your gut. I am also 20 and in college, now 5 mos. pregnant w/ a little boy. I myself had considered abortion, even though I never really wanted to do it. But I'm glad I didn't. I know it's going to be tough, but my baby boy will be worth it. I know you can do it too. You seem like you have your head on straight, even though I know you're probably questioning if you're going crazy or not right now. Don't worry, that's normal. I still think I'm going crazy sometimes haha, pregnancy just does that to you I guess. But I strongly urge you to look into your options. Even if you can't raise your baby, there is adoption. Even for women that are sure they want to go the route of abortion, there are regrets, so to go through with it and not even know if it's what you really want, well that would just be heartbreaking. I know you have to make your own decision, but let me know if you would like to talk. Good luck to you and God bless. <3 Jaz (aka FrancesBeanMommy)

Hun, you are 20 and much older than many girls who carry on having their babies and they do end up finishing college. Don't think of your child as a setback in your life, think of her/him as a new motivation. It is so very normal to have second doubts; I used to be pro choice, until I had one and I understood what it really does. You really get rid of a part of yourself, and that is not easy to live with. I had my abortion last year, I was about to turn 18, about to graduate highschool and get scholarships for university. I had a steady job as a cashier and my boyfriend had a steady job of his own. I just thought that we could never ever make it on our income and plus I want to follow my dream and go to university, ofcourse I thought about it. How it would change our lives, but my mom convinced me finally that it was the best choice. I knew that if I chose to have my baby, I would not have the support of my family. After the abortion, I couldn't bear to see babies, I couldnt forgive my parents, I couldnt forgive myself and I was lucky enough to have my bf stick through it with me, eventhough he didn't believe in abortion. I'm once again pregnant, first year in university, but I know better this time, I couldnt end a life, and be so selfish just to make mine easier. It's doable to go to college and have a baby, and provide for your baby, you might fall a year behind, but I know it's going to be worth it. Just think about it like this, if this was the only baby you could ever have, how much would you beat yourself for giving her/him up. Would your life be more complete? If your answer is yes, then go ahead with an abortion, you can handle the aftermath, but if you have a 1% doubt, it's not worth it. Your heart makes the wisest choices when it comes to this, go for an ultrasound, and I'm sure like many others, the heartbeat of your child will make you cry. Take your bf with you, and make him understand the life inside of you. Good luck, Best of Wishes, and PLZ trust your heart.

hey girl, trust me i know exactly what ur going thru. my situation is even a little harder. IM 18, STILL FINISHING UP HS AT 29 WEEKS PREGNANT, AND MY FIANCEE IS IN THE ARMY AND HAS BEEN AWAY FOR MY WHOLE PREGNANCY. weve been together 3 years, ive seen him once since ive been preg, and it was for 6 days. i was 10 weeks. im now 29 and havent seen him in 4 1/2 months. i was so scared when i got preggo too and abortion ran thru my mind for a second, but like the other girls have told u, GO WITH YOUR GUT. YOU know yourself better than ANYONE else does. you know better than anyone of your own capabilities. if u feel like youd never forgive urself and u cant do it, then dont! there are plenty of girls who go thru it fine, but none of them i know that have had abortions had those doubts. if u go thru with it already knowing its something u cant do, there will be huge emotional and psychological consequences. you know your limitations, dont let anyone else influence you! ive been with my fiancee for three years, but i had to ask myself, could i do this alone? am i doing this to keep him, or am i trying to do this for my daughter?? and the answer was im doing it for her. because no matter who the father of your child is, that baby is half YOU. many girls i know that have gotten an abortion get pregnant again on purpose to replace the empty feeling that remains. my mom aborted my older sibling (it was with my dad, but they had only met months before) and she still remembers the date, and thinks about it every year. she got it when she was 19. now shes 40 and she still wonders, was it a boy or a girl? what would it have looked like? and she beats herself up over it because she ended up marrying my dad anyways. if u have doubts, dont do it. u will regret an abortion, raising a baby is hard but you will never regret bringing that child into this world, even if the timing isn't perfect. my parents told me they would kick me out, disown me, and they told me i had to get an abortion. that i didnt have a choice. but i did have a choice. and i CHOSE. once u feel the flutters of a new life inside of u, you will NEVER regret that decision. good luck with whatever you do girl, and keep us posted.

If you have an abortion you will always wonder about that baby and will regret it for the rest of your life. Talk to some of these girls on here who have had miscarriages or abortions and how much their hearts bleed for their children Talk to some of us other girls who have done it on our own without a man by our side and the sun still shines because we are loved by our children. It is not an easy road however it is definitly worth while. go to http://www.truthnet.org/abortion/ and check out the video the hard truth, one of the girls posted the website not long ago...then you'll know what you are doing. Your life will come back and you will graduate college. I did...it got put on hold but i finished and i have a really good job now working for a huge corperation. Its a shame that a child should die so that we may live as we choose. No matter what your decision you will still wake up tomorrow and the day after but will your baby? And will you wake up everyday with a broken heart or someone sucking on your nose and looking at you with LOVE.

Mother is God in the eyes of a child<br><br>Post edited by: acas, at: 2006/11/15 16:21