Help. I hurt soooo bad. Me and my husband have been together for four years and soon to be four children, and now he found someone else and is throwing all of us away. Right now I am pregnant with twin girls, and we have a two year old son and a nine month old daughter, and he chose to leave all of us for another woman. I'm so broken. I'm losing my best friend and my soul mate, and I don't know how to deal with all of this. He is abusive, and does nothing but lie to me anymore, so me and the kids are moving away before the twins are born, is this a bad idea? He doesn't want to fight for custody, or to keep us in town, so I'm leaving. How do I deal? Any advice at all is greatly appreciated. Sorry this is so long, I needed to vent.

Thank you,
Michelle J.
19 yrs.

I think you are doing the smartest, bravest thing you can. If he is abusive and lying you should leave him, or if he finds out this new girl is just a passing thing after you leave, he will come find you. Things will get better, know I am here and you are in my prayers.
Teresa

By leaving him you are doing the smartest bravest thing you can. If he is just lying to you and does not really love you you are better off without him, or, if this new girl is just a passing thing and he really loves you and the kids more he will come and find you. Good luck, know I am here praying for you.
Teresa

I think that you are making the right decision by moving. I mean, if he doesn't want to be in your life, don't let him. Since your 19, and been with him since about 15, then he is probably one of your \"first loves.\" All you need is your children. You don't need a guy to make you happy. That's what us women forget. I know that if my Fiance left me, i would be torn apart and probably be where you are today (minus 3 kids) by thinkin that you need him. BUt in reality, you dont. Get child support and if he wants this other woman so bad, let him. I know its tough but if you can be a single mother and raise 4 kids, you are seriously a hero. no joke. sounds gay but its fer real. email me if you need to vent, talk, need advice, anything..

hey girl go you for stepping up and doing the right thing not only for your kids but for yourself. i can only imagine all the hurt you are going through and i only wish i could take it away from you and i dont even know you. if your husband has chosen to walk away from yall then that is something he is going to have to live with for the rest of his life.. but would you want to live with regret that you took your hurt out on your children? they are innocent little angels and they cant help the problems that you and your husband might be experiencing. so yes i do think it was the right decision to get out of that relationship. let your kids motivate you through all of this... let those little unborn babies push you to get over the pain. this will most likely without a doubt take some time to heal from but you can do it.. you have to be strong for them... they are relying on you. your husbands lying and abusive behavior only puts stress on you and those babies.. all of them. yall dont deserve that. God is testing you for something.. dont let him down... show him you can do it.. and if you believe in God pray to him.. ask him to help guide you through this hard time in your life. and dont forget he knew all of this was going to happen and he has a plan for you and he doesnt make mistakes. ask for his help.. things will get better.. they might get worst before they get better but dont give up on God.. because he isnt going to give up on you. if you have a relationship with your family.. turn to them also.. maybe they can help you out also. but girl dont give up. you know what is right for you and those babies so you make the decisions that will make everything right. i will support you and you can email me anytime.. or email me and i will give you my number and you can call me because i know you need people to support you. i will be here for you to talk to from here on out.. maybe you are the reason that God made me sign onto this website tonight.. because your story has hit my heart in a weird way and i feel that i was directed to this site to help you.. so you let me know anything i can do to help you. you will get through this!!! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

i havn't personally been through this but my sis who is 22 at the mo is going through the same thing, she has a 3 year old son and is due wth her second at the end of jan. he husband has jsut picked up and left saying he will have contact on his terms and all that. what she is doing is focusing all her attention on to the baby, shes getting the babys room all organised and making that her focus, shes doing it really hard but the babys her biggest strenght