I need some assistance. I really don't know what to do. The father of my children wants to be in a good friendship with me and I want to be a good friend to him but, I don't want to have any sexual contact. He has a girlfriend and I don't think we should be nowhere near that level. In the beggining we were supposed to be just friends and I ended up being pregnant by him for the second time. At first he was upset with it and then he started excepting it b/c he new it took two to do what happened. I need to know how I can just keep it on a level where he can just be the father of my children and that's it? How can I put it in words? He is upset with me now b/c I talk to someone and doesn't want the man I talk to being around his children. I feel like I can't move on but, he can. He doesn't care that he has his own life. He just wants me to be alone and depending on him. What should I do?

This sounds slightly similar to what i'm dealing with right now. My guy & i split up, then i got pregnant & we are still working on the being 'friends' thing, only nothing has changed since we broke up. wierd. i thought it was just us going thro this. i dont really have any advice to give you, i just wanted you to know that you arent alone. *hugs* and good luck girl.

Do what ever makes you happy. If you two cant just have a father to mother relationship then so be it. i know you want to be in a friendship for the kids but he shouldnt keep you from seeing other people. live your own life. if he can have a girlfriend around your kids, then y cant you have a boyfriend around them. dont play his games. my mom did that with my dad for years n shes 42 with no one. goodluck

He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's got his girlfriend and wants you on the side. You are being the strong, level headed one. Keep being strong. Anything I can do for you, let me know please. I am here for you.

Penny