Right now I have no support from my family. My dad is telling me to get an abortion from the sidelines, we aren't even talking right now though...so I don't understand why he is trying to interfere. My grandmother is telling me that she doesn't believe in abortion and that I should give it up for adoption. My mom is saying that she is kicking me out when I turn 18 no matter what I do, and my boyfriend is walking the line between keeping it and wanting me to get an abortion, only because he's scared about financial things.

I don't know what to do.

I'm scared as hell.

hey...i just read your post...
how old are you?

well what is your heart telling you? cause however, the decision is yours...i can just tell you, that i had an abortion..and belive me, it would be easier to have the baby...'cause i wake up and feel this big guilt,...and i would do anything to get the time back and keep it, i know i cant..but i would.

'cause you know, when u want something, then you can make it, the questin is just, what does your heart telling you?

you have to know what YOU want, cause whatever decision you will make, only YOU will live with it...
if u need someone to talk or anything, i'm here *****hugs****

If you need advice from the guys side....it is all up to you. The financial things might become a problem after a while but you can pull through. I never had sided on abortion but a child knowing they was adopted \"may\" have emotional effects on them later on in life as a teenager (even though some turn out perfectly fine).

IT is your choice what to do but i would suggest to keep the baby. I know you and your boyfriend will make it through. Good luck

Thanks for the advice. I'm 17, but I'll be turning 18 just after the baby is due. My boyfriend is 19.

His dad wants me to get an abortion, but I'm afraid that I will wake up with immense guilt, like you say you do. I've even talked to people I know who had abortions when they were younger than am I and wish they could have kept the baby. I'm just nervous and scared.

hellou.
well, i don't know exactlyy what u are going thru, but i can think...

the boyfrinds father...why doesn't he want the baby? some ral fact or is he just afraid from having responibility?
i don't know... i just can say to you...if you are having an abortion...you will never feel the same... you will never be the same..maby with time (but hell its been almost 2 year since i had mine and i feel like crap)...you'll aski yourself how would he/she look like... it's not easy... i know having a baby at this age isn't easy at all...but i think (and many who i know that had an abortiion, and later (still as a teenager) had a baby says so to) that keeping it isn't that hard than to live with an abortion...
but still... i think you really should think about, think about YOU, YOURSELF, and what you want...you shouldnt let someone decide for you...or let someone push ypu into something...
thats why i am telling you..take a day just for u and your heart...think about, what u expect,want...and then decide...
love****

Hi ya emmyboo!
First, I'm sending you a hug bear hug for comfort. Your life appears to be complicated right now. Caught in the middle of what your parents want and what you feel is best. Your parents are probably a little shocked and hurt knowing that their little girl is pregnant. If they just learned about the baby, give them a few days to come around. If they don't come around, you can cross that bridge later. Sounds like you mom isn't wanting you to leave right now anyway. Make sure you are in a safe location.
Second, parents have a habit of reacting poorly to early pregnancies. I know it feels bad right now-that the entire world hates you or is against you-but your parents are upset with your decision to have sex. It doesn't mean they love you any less. They are scared as hell right now and don't know what to do. In all honesty, how did you expect them to act?
Third, YOU need to make the decision. Not your parents, his parents, or bf. Abortion is a quick resolution to a life changing decision. I don't believe men can understand the soul level pain some women experience post-abortion. Not because they don't care but because they are incapable of carrying life. Give this some thought. Who is suggesting abortion? The men in your life-not the women. From your posts is sounds like you are leaning away from abortion, too. Do not cave into what others want you to do. Make the decsion yourself.
With that said, you need to begin to prepare yourself for changes. If you choose adoption or to keep, either two require insurance. Have you applied for Medicaid yet? Seen a Dr.? Prenatal care is important. I suggest that you begin the application process. That way you will have one less item to think about.
Finally, and again, You must make the decision. You can get through this difficult time. There are plenty on this board who will gladly chat with you. I am one of those individuals. Take care of yourself. Give this some serious thought. Find a quiet place and think for yourself.
Another big hug and much love for you. I'm here for you....untbunny