Hey everyone,
I am 19 sophmore in college, i am five weeks and three days pregnant, and i have no ONE to ask for help....
soo i am asking you all what you think...

my boyfriend is older and is in process of purchasing a house for me, that was before i found out i was pregnant... i told him and instead of being happy... he was irate... he insists i have a abortion, and i am not sure i want one, he says if i dont' he wont' give me the house, (and i can't afford rent, i have no family) he won't have anything to do with the child.. i don't know what to do...
should i have the abortion or not...

Hiiiii! I'm Lisa and I am from the Stand Up Girl website.

When I read your e-mail, my heart lept for fear for you. Please understand, when you read my e-mail response to you, it is from a heart of caring and a girl that has experienced what you are considering doing. Abortion.

Please please know that NO MAN IS WORTH THE LIFE OF YOUR CHILD. I can tell you already have the heart of a mommy! You don't want the abortion, and just by being at this website is a sort of wonderful way of reaching out.

Well I reach back to you and ask you to please take my hand ... I will walk this walk through the pregnancy with you and I will encourage you as I know that countless other girls on this site will do for you too.

When we choose abortion, we choose, also a lifetime of regret and pain. Then the man that MADE you get the abortion will be attached to that memory forever. Bitterness often times follows and he is the one that is making you choose. Him and a house or the life of your baby.

Please please - life is so much better than the material gain of a home. And you will also be able to find, one day, a man that will absolutely and totally fall head over heels in love with you and your beautiful baby and want to make a protective covering and a home over you. Not threatent you with \"If you don't kill your baby - I won't give you a home.\"

Please forgive me ... I'm not upset with you ... I'm angry that this guy puts the responsibility of this horrible decision over you and dangles a house in front of you like a carrot in front of a horse.

You are far better than that. You can be a Stand Up Girl and I will also give you a website to help you locate nearby free help. THey can help you locate financial assistance and more. I bet you ... that your boyfriends tune would change IMMEDIATELY after he laid eyes on that beautiful bundle of joy.

Please - choose life for you and your baby. Don't listen to him. THere is far better out there for you. OK?

Here is the website and even a toll free 800#

www.OptionLine.org

800-395- HELP (4357)

You can also e-mail me at the Stand Up Girl website or just reply here on your posting. OK?

Please let me know how you are.

Luv Lisa

aw girl im going through the same thing. im preggo with my 2nd child and the father doesnt want it (he was cheating on his gf with me) but i dont think i could handle it either so im practically forced to go through it. you on the other hand dont have to! if that man is trying to force you to have an abortion when you dont want to... he isnt worth keeping around. have you looked into getting some financial help from a government agency over there? seriously... there are ways to deal with having a baby on your own. im a solo mum now too and i manage to get by... like lisa said... when you go through something like that you will always wonder \"what if\"... having a baby is the most amazing thing you will ever do in your life and if you think you are emotionally ready to do it... then i say do it! i hope i have helped a little.. *hugs*

Aww, well I agree completely with Lisa... she said most of the things that I have in mind. I never went through an abortion, but i can only imagine how hard it would be on you! Your life would never be the same if you kill your own baby! I am so sorry that you have to have a man like that in your life and no family by your side... but hold your head up high girl! YOu can make it on your own and you dont need no man to survive!! I wish you the best of luck and you will be in my prayers!!

im 23 and i had an abortion last year in oct, it was and still is the most hardest thing to get over, i had the abortion just to keep my man. The early this month (april) i was 10 weeks pregnant and i lost it.

Please keep your child, i wish i stood up to my man he first time around and kept it, would be due in 2 weeks with my first one.


PLEASE CONSIDER WHAT YOU WANT AND NOT WHAT YOUR MAN WANTS ITS YOUR BODY AFTER ALL.

don't take the life of ur baby just because of some lousy man...if he doesn't want to be a daddy he can at least pay for child support and then u would be albe to afford to take care of ur baby and ur self...