i am19, and my boyfriend is 24. we have been seeing each other for 5 months, and decided to make it exclusive 3 months ago. a few days ago i found out i was pregnant. i wasnt feeling well, and i just decided on a whim to test, and it was positive. i told him when he got home from class that night when we went to bed. he hasnt been supportive this whole time. he brought up abortion, which i told him absolutly not. now he thinks adoption is better. there is no way i am giving my baby up for adoption. he just wont see it my way. he says we cant support this baby financially. we cant even support ourselves right now. we've both had a hard financial time these last couple months. we try to help each other but sometimes its not enough. lately we've been fighting over things a lot. he doesnt tell me things, purposly hides things from me, and i talk to him about it but he still hasnt stopped. he just keeps repeating it. i dont know if our relationship is ever going to get better. it seems like its in regression instead of progressing. he told his mom, and she agrees with him. she asked what we're going to do if we break up. i told my cousin and she agrees with me. she said he'll come around. she also said if he doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby then i will be able to do it. we have a very supportive family. i am still scared to tell my mom though. she was always the perfect one in the family. so i dont know what to do or how to make my boyfriend come around to the idea of keeping the baby. i know we cant afford it, but its my baby, and i dont want to regret not keeping it just because he doesnt want us to. anybody help please. im so scared. thanks

hey i understand what you're going through.when i found out i had only been with the guy for a little while and abortion was the only thing he could see as an option.guys just don't get what it feels like when you are pregnant,the thought of purposely killing your child is just impossible-well it was for me anyway.he told me if i didn't abort then he never wanted to hear from me or the child ever again and that if i did abort he promised to be with me forever and later in the future we could have children and all this crap.and in weak moments i believed him and actually considered abortion.but luckily i pulled through my doubts and stood my ground.and yeah he cut me out of his life and i havent spoken to him since.not a day goes by that i am not proud for the decision i made and stuck by and i cant imagine how much it would have messed me up if i had of aborted.maybe you will end up in my situation,maybe you will have to go through this without him.and it isnt easy,its the hardest thing ive ever done,but its worth it.im 26 weeks now and my baby is worth far more to me than any guy could ever be.you will get through this,and when the times right you will tell your mum and no mater what happens here on out you will get through it and be a stronger person because of it.if you ever need to talk write me ok

im sure he'll come around... no man's just going to give up a child like that, unless he's heartless.. plus atleast you have your family's support.. and states alone provide a lot for babies (like healthcare and food) if your really in that much of a financial jam. you just gotta stay stong. good luck. -elena

You should give into those mommy instincts and protect your baby. If your boyfriend leaves you I think you're a strong enough women to make it through. It also sounds like you're family will help you through. And I was scared to tell my mom too. I waited so long that by the time i did, she had pretty much figured it out.

don't let him guilt you into an abortion or adoption if u don't want to. it's his baby too, so wether he stays with you or not he has a responisbility to you and that baby. i wish you all that luck.

I completly agree with all the other ladies. Thank you for choosing life. There are so many recources out there to help you be a parent. I have never felt bad for receiving food stamps because I was always working and paying my taxes. I put in there fore I received what I needed. Now that I am married I no longer receive food stamps because the Lord has brought me new provision. Dont let anyone put you down for wanting to keep the baby or for using the recources you might have to to keep your head above water. Being a mom is wonderful but make sure that you learn from this situation. In most cases I have heard of a Husband rarely asks his wife to abort and would most likely not want to put the child up for adoption. There fore I would encourage you to stand on the truth and not put yourself into a position that could get you preg again untill your married. If a man wont marry you before you have sex with him then in MOST cases (not all) he wont stand by you through the hard times. After 10 yrs of being sexually active and 2 kids later I made that choice. I went through both pregnancies on my own ( 2 diff dads) at that point I decided never again. I kept both of my children and spent 4 yrs as a single parent. I am now married to a man that I did not have sex with untill our wedding night and I know we will both rejoice when we find out that Im pregnant. I hope and pray that you will join me in having an awesome testimony some day and that if this man truly loves you he will marry you or that single parent hood will strengthen you as much as it did me love and God bless Meg