My name is Heather and I am 19.
My boyfriend is 21 we have been together for 3 1/2 years.
I got pregnant about 7 1/2 months ago.
I told my boyfriend the second I found out.
His reaction was not the best and for about a month or so he was very mean to me and made comments like \"maybe if we get into a car accident you won't be able to have your stupid kid\" and mean evil things like that everyday. We barley spoke for over a month. His mother didn't help the situation either she told both of us that it was all my fault because it is 100% the womans responsibility to take care of birth control issues. And that I should have an abortion cause I know how he felt about the situation and that I didnt care about my boyfriend if I didn't have an abortion and that I was ruining his life.
My boyfriend and I werent using condoms or birth control and he knew I wouldn't have an abortion if I got pregnant and I knew he didnt want kids at his age so I personally feel we are both at fault since we both knew the cercumstances. Well finally I moved four hours away from him to be by my family. About a month after I moved he asked me if he could move in with me, he said he really wanted to make this work and that he was as ready as he was going to be for this responsibility. We discussed it and I explained things would have to change. He agreed and moved in. He has made a complete turn around he is a totally different person and is in love with his child already. She is due to be born April 4th 2007. And although he has changed and has stated that he knows he was worng for how he acted in the beginning and he told me he wasnt sure what to do he was scared and he felt the only thing he could do was be angry. I cant help but still feel some hatered toward him for how he did treat me for that month or so after he found out I was pregnant. I can't help but lash out at him some times even now 7 months later I don't know why I am still mad at him he treats me like a queen and I know he is sorry but like I said i still feel some kinda of hate for him for treating me in such an awful way. I do love him and I don't want to be mean to him I just don't know if I can ever forget the things he said to me.
I just need some advice about the whole thing and someone to tell me how they feel about my story.

Thanks in advance,
Heather

I just want to say that I understand that you are still upset with your bf over the things he said to you and the way he acted in the beginning of the pregnancy, but give him some credit. He came back to you, he apologized and realized the error of his previous ways. My son's father has been acting the way your bf acted my entire pregnancy, and he left us when i was only about 2 1/2 months along. I do not have hopes of him coming back, he has turned into a monster But it sounds like your baby's father is really trying, and that he really wants to be there. Men don't understand what to do in these situations, and it really is just a great thing that he came around so quickly.Try explaining to him how you still feel about things. And if nothing else, just go on with your life and make things wonderful for your baby! Count your blessings darling, and good luck with everything.

im glad you sorted things out but you need to forgive and forget not just for yourself but for your unborn child nobody is perfect he made a mistake hes now making up for that mistake and hes the father of your child everybodydeserves a second chance

men go through these stages just relax if he came back he had time to think about it just trust me iit a shock to them just like it was for youts natural for men to react like this

Hey I don't really have an answer for you but I am new on this site and I am in a very similar position....except I am only eight weeks pregnant andI am 21 and my boyfriend is alot older than me and already has a child. I told my boyfriend two weeks ago...we have been together for four years and he is absolutely unsupportive. He keeps telling me to get an abortion. I can't do that and he knows that....I have always told him that. but I know how you feel and it sounds like your baby's father came around and he will be a good parent I am sure. I know how you feel right now...I can't even look at my boyfriend as the same person when he says things like that.

hey!! well i cant say i have ever been in a situation like yours but i have been treated very badly in the past and went back every time! but the difference between my story and yours is mine ex never showed any remorce for his actions!!

i do believe in second chances but i dont believe in letting yourself get walked all over!! i understand in your case you have a baby envolved and of COURSE he/she will come before any1 BUT dont forget about your needs and feelings also!!

i wish you the best of luck chicken!!!! xxx