hi my name is sania and im nineteen with two kids. im going through a really bad divorce and i just found out that my boyfriend got me pregnant. we were already on the verge of breaking up. and we fight every day. he is a real jerk and mentally abusive to me. i dont want this baby and i just want it all to go away. i have no one to talk to and i dont know what to do. this pregnancy was a total accident and i dont know how much crap i can take from him. please somebody out there help!

Oh my goodness Sania - I'm so sorry you are going through such a difficult time right now. My name is Lisa and I am from the Stand Up Girl website.

I wanted to post a message of encouragement to you.

Please Sania - abortion will NOT make everything all better. You say that you just want an abortion and make it \"all go away\". Trust me, abortion will only make matters worse. It will NOT EVER go away with abortion. Only the guilt and the pain just begins after abortion.

Please - take a look at this site and see if you can locate a nearby center in your area. It is free and confidential and they would surround you with support and love and they would be very happy to help you.

Please don't let a bad relationship further ruin that beautiful little baby that is inside of you. Your baby counts on you for his or her very next movement and breath. Here is the website:

www.OptionLine.org

Please let me know how you are. OK?

Luv Lisa

i know its probably bad to say, but i dont know what to do. im already having a hard time taking care of one, and the other the father has custody of and wont give her back without a custody battle.i dont have a job and i cant get one because i cant afford or get my youngest into childcare. im living at my moms and im trying to get my own place and shes giving me no support. she only wants to know when im getting out of her house. its so hard to deal with my boyfriend and i just dont know how im going to take care of another one by myself. im just so confused and alone

I totally know that 'alone' feeling. But hey girl - you are sooooooo surrounded right here. I know it's not the same as having friends sitting with you in your living room ... but please, let's just get you through this difficult time at first. OK?

Please don't choose a drastic measure that you will only regret for the rest of your life. You CAN do this! You totally can! OK?

Let's just start with this. OK ... sit back and get comfy on your chair. Now ... are you comfy? OK ... take a deeeep breath. Hold it for a second ... now let it out slowly. Now ... on your next breath let's say this together \"I am going to take a Stand for my baby ... I'm going to be a Stand Up Girl!\"

You see ... it's only ONE step at a time. You don't need to have a 5 bedroom house and college tuition right now. All you need is to worry about right now. OK - right now at this very moment --- without thinking about way down the road, how do you feel? Knowing that you have a precious little life inside of you. Listen to the quite of the air in your room right now and remember. Remember when you first held your first little baby. What was that like? What was it like when your first baby and your second baby moved in your womb? What was that experience like? Was it exciting? What was it like to feed your baby for the very first time. Do you remember looking down at your babys eyelashes. How your baby breathed when he or she ate? What was that like?

Ohhh -I'm trying to bring back that special memory to let you know ... you get to have that again with this beautiful little life that is now inside of you. Please ... realize that baby that is inside of you is just as important as the baby that is in the next room.

I know you can do this and we can get you the tools to help you make it. Right now ... all you need is time. Time to get settled and to not panic. Once you have made up your mind to let your baby live, then the next step will be a lot easier. Right now ... I have a feeling that you know you don't want to have an abortion ... and like me, you are looking for anyone to give you a good excuse why not to.

Let me give you a toll free number and let's see what we can find for you in the area of help and support. OK?

800-395-HELP (4357)

Look at your little ones now and realize that the love you have for those babies, I think you already have for the one that is inside of you. Don't you agree?

Please let me know how you are. OK?

I'm keeping my eyes peeled for ya!

Take care.

Luv Lisa xxx

i just called your helpline and they referred me to the pregnancy center, i called them and they talked to me for a minute and told me to come down tomorrow and talk to them. thank you so much for your help. i think i am going to keep it. im so glad that there are websites like this for people like me. i am so thankful for the support

I can barely contain myself in my chair right now. I'm jumping up and down with excitement. I'm crying big tears of joy right now. haha - the people in my office are going to think I'm crazy!

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I am so so overjoyed! You have given me reason to be sooooo happy!

Good girl! I am so so so so proud of you!

If you want to - you can keep in contact with me directly at the website too if you want to.

This has been such a wonderful correspondence back and forth. Just remember, I'm always here to talk to you. If you want ... you can e-mail me directly at the Stand Up Girl website at:

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Then I will get your e-mail right away! Ohhh - I am so happy - you will not regret this. I have a feeling you are already happy about this huh!



Luv Lisa