I chose to abort my child.
that was exactly 16 months ago.

Until then, I have been fine. But now I am freaking out, dealing with depression, all because of this child I never had. Does anyone know what this is like? Please, I need help right now.

I haven't been through what you are going through but just wanted to say I am sorry and you can message me if you need someone to talk to. You can call 1800395help or go to optionline.org and they will tell you where a pregnancy center is near you that offers support for woman who have had abortions and some have their own abortion stories too so they can relate.

I haven't been through what you are going through but just wanted to say I am sorry and you can message me if you need someone to talk to. You can call 1800395help or go to optionline.org and they will tell you where a pregnancy center is near you that offers support for woman who have had abortions and some have their own abortion stories too so they can relate.

i know a little of how ur feeling, its been less than a month for me and im experienceing a thing calld post abortion stress symdrom, im depressed, i have nightmares, im angery, best this i found was to go see a counceler and talk to someone... Im sorry for what your going threw.. I know how you feel

Hey, Painfullysmiling,
Im sorry about everything! I have not had an abortion. I have had a miscarriage, which i know is not the same. But I went through a few of the emotions you are going through right now, and in fact i still deal with them sometimes. I have a few links that might help you out and encourage you through the mourning process. Im going to give you two link I think might be helpful. If you feel you need more info. or more links that may help PLEASE send us a DearBecky letter or email me @ This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
www.rachelsvineyard.org.. This site is a sage place to renew,rebuild and redeem hearts broken by abortion. Confidential and non-judgmental environment where women and men can express their emotions.

and the optionline.org. Most Pregnancy Centers have post abortion classes and counseling. If you go to the site you can find a pregnancy resource center near you! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me know if you need anything else, or even if you just need to chat!

Hugs to you, Im glad we are here to help!

Teka <3

Hi there,

I hope this is not too late...

It's been almost 2 years since we opted for termination, and please believe me it does get better.

I must admit the issues surrounding my decision & the effect it had on me & my boyfriend were most defiantly not as serve & to be perfectly honest quite mild, although I kept a lot of feelings inside it does get better & easier. We saw a psychologist just to help us learn & help each other when grief did strike us as it was some what unbearable to see my boyfriend upset & in turn for him to see me distort. This week is coming up the anniversary of our "due date" and to help us cope we always do something special, we bought candles each & light them together, no one else knows what these candles are for but us & it give us the opportunity to release & commemorate our feelings.

My question is to you, what feels & issues do you have, is it guilt, or depression, or confusion.

x x Emma.