Hey everyone,

So my guy and I have been together about 10 months now and we are soon to be married :]
We both lost our virginity to each other in feb. and since that our relationship and grown. I love him so much!

Although I have a problem..u might say? I am yearing for a child? I have found myself watching, reading, and listenign to anything I can get my hands on about becoming prego, and haveing a child.

I'm on "the pill" because I dont need to get prego. My guy wants children just not at the moment.

The pill is great and he doesnt pull out at all...still not prego. I took a test the other day and the 2nd pink line didnt show up...I became melancholy almost sad.

Do any other girls feel this way? I know its wrong to think this....

I know I meant to be a mother. My bf and I are moving out in June to our own place and if a baby comes I know we would manage the expenses...

So someone plz help. I need advice. Thank u :]

As women most of us are born with a built in longing for children, our bodies were made to reproduce....there is nothing abnormal or strange about your craving for a child, however due to the fact that you are not married and that your boyfriend has clearly stated he does not want a baby right now I would strongly encourage you to wait....keep reading, keep learning, take some parenting classes, babysit, save up money, invest in a nice crib if you feel like it, get all those things out of the way, save up for your wedding, plan it and follow through with it, then.....open the baby flood gates and welcome your little family members, as many as you want!! But honey, a 10 month relationship is not that long in the scheme of commitment, the fact that you lost your virginity to each other is a huge bonus but you still really need to let your relationship stand the test of time before you try for a baby....see I have learned the hard way...twice...my kids are the ones who have to suffer for it...I have also known of many couples who planned their wedding, then got pregnant, postponed the wedding and never ended up following through with it...then breaking up...it is a horrible cycle and I don't want that for you...please do not rely on the pills alone, they are not 100% effective and you can still become pregnant...you two have only been having sex for the last 2 months right? So whats the rush, you spent 8 with no sex, maybe now that you know each other in that way and most likely have no complaints take a step back and enjoy the other areas of your relationship and allow the sexual tension to build back up, it will be good for your wedding night and I know that neither of you would regret waiting longer...then you don't have the pregnancy risk or scare...like I said though, it is very normal to want that baby...I had my tubes tied for medical reasons and although I am fixed and have been through pregnancy 3 times I still long for another baby in my arms...it is in our blood!! However acting on that longing at the wrong time may bring a lot of complications...life is complicated enough on a good day...just give it time and do things slowly and responsibly and you will find a ton of blessing to follow!! Love Meg

Thanks so much for the reply^^

Yes, I do think It's a womenly instinct and I also know your right. I guess I'm just so in love him and wanting to experience everything that comes with finding "the one" We are saving up for our wedding..and that will come in time just like a baby will.

I need to be realistic. It's hard becuase I know what my heart wants but then my mind kicks in and loads all the complications on top of things. I'm just gonna take one step at a time...I know his fam would blow a fit if something like that happened. I don't want to put him through that.

Thanks so much again

Any other advice?

I can relate. I've wanted a baby for soooo long now. I always joke that God is intentionally only putting bad guys in my path because he knows once I find Mr. Right I'm gonna get knocked up immediately. I'm nineteen now and there was a time where I planned on having my first child at 19. Now I'm thinking 21 is good. =)

Ya exactly. ;p 21 is a good age but it seems so far away lol. I guess right now if I get prego I know I could manage and take care of the things I need to. Yes it will be hard..but I have support.