I'm 20 years old and pregnant, 6-8 weeks now I've been told.

I've made the appointment for having an abortion, and the soonest they could get me is March 22nd, 4 weeks from now.

I'm looking for advice from those who have had abortions at 12-14 weeks pregnant, and if there are more complications than normal, or complications later in life.

I've googled photos of the ultrasound. How did you get over seeing the shadow of your baby and continuing on with your decision? Just like talking about getting pregnant and getting an abortion, when it actually happens it is a scary thing. Waiting for 4 weeks honestly scares me. I am also scared of the pain and discomfort. Is it easily treated with medication, or is it always constant?

I am a full-time hairstylist so I can't hide behind a desk. I'm constantly on my feet, and surrounded by clients and co-workers. By the time March 22nd comes around I'm sure I will be showing a lot more, but I can't let anyone know because abortion is a very tricky topic, and I'd rather not offend everyone around me.

I'd like to hear positive stories from others who have had abortions with no regret, and about the healing process afterwards. Possibly how you hid your belly (if you showed) and how you dealt with everything.

Thank you for listening!

Hey there, First of all I want to say thank you for coming to our forums with your need, it shows that you are not just blindly walking into this, you are really putting some thought into it....I want to address a couple things with you though, for one, I do not believe that you will get any responses about positive abortion experiences, especially with no regrets, I have met many girls who have aborted and believed that it was the right thing for them but they carry a lot of pain and regret and therefore makes it seem as though just maybe it was not the right thing....anyways along with that you also mentioned googling ultrasound images, did you also google abortion images? The visual difference between an ultrasound and a face to face image of the baby is HUGE, things are a little fuzzy in an ultrasound but face to face images show you the intricate details, who's nose the baby has, eye lids, ears, fingers and toes, even the internal organs through their thin almost translucent skin...Do you know why they want you to wait 4 weeks? Do you think maybe it is fate just giving you more time to make the right choice for this little life inside of you!! Do not ignore that fear that is making you look for others who have been there...there is a reason why you want to hear from them, you want to confirm that what you are doing is right and ok but I can tell you honestly that it is not...if you also thought so then you wouldn't have a problem letting those you work with know about it, there is an element of shame coming through, don't ignore that...you do not have to go through with this abortion...you can make it, you can be a hair dresser and have a baby, you'll do just fine!! Please do me a favor, send me an email or even post on here if you want to the 5 main reasons why you want to have an abortion and then also the 5 main reasons you are afraid to do so....I want to be here to help you do your research, researching a decision like this shows that you are so smart, find the facts, look up the procedures and if you can look at the images of those babies who's moms did not give them the chance and still go through with it then at least if nothing else you know what you are getting yourself into physically but I assure you not even me because I have not had an abortion can prepare you emotionally, no one can unless they have done it, here is my email, This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it ,please write to me, I would love to help you do some soul searching and answer any questions that were not addressed on here...but please, do not ignore that unsettled feeling eating away at you....Love Meg

hey, to this there isnt alot of positive things to abortions, myself knowing from experience,but i am alot younger then you just at 16 today is the 4weeks mark since i had my abortion i no over in the states its alot different to how it happens in australia, look no one but yourself can make the decision and its hard, i myself did it and everyday i live with that fact that i did do it and ill never hold my baby i was 10 and half weeks pregenet i had a week and a half before i couldnt legally do it over here, i now see a counciller and i am pretty depressed but i no soon i will see a better day and soon i wont have to pretend to be happy, you cant prepare yourself for the emotions you go through and the emptyness you feel, im also glad you have given yourself time to think i knew for 5 days before i went and did it and thats something i really regret if i had of waited for the next time slot the week after i no for a fact i wouldnt have gone and i would now be 17weeks pregnet and scared as hell, look this is me, there isnt much keeping me on this world anymore but my family and the boy that has been there from the moment i found out and hasnt left my side, my main reason for doing it was because im only 16 im in my final year of school and i dont think myself being a child could of brought my own child in the world and given it all i really could or all it needed. please give yourself time to think about this, find me on my page and get back to me x love criidle

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I know you are so young and only 16, and I would advise you to not be sexually active until you are ready for the responsibility of a baby. I think if you feel like you are too young for a baby, than you are also too young to be able to make the right choices about sex. I have learned that love is patient and if a man really cares he will want to wait for you. Since there is no 100% way to not get pregnant with sex, and many many girls get pregnant even on birth control, its just better to wait until you are ready to better handle the responsibilities that come with being sexually active. This is the best advice that I can give to you. I am proud of you that you told everyone your story, its hard to do expecially when you face up to the fact that you didnt make the wrong choice. Look to God, He is the only one that can take the pain away, and use it for good!! Just think of all the girls you will get to share with and encourage to not go down the same road because you know what the other side looks like now.

and ur absolotuly correct i did tell him im not going to have sex til i am ready to bring a child into this world and he fully suports it he is so scared to think i may have to go through something like that again and i take full responsibility like yeh i blame the other guy but for reasons i have myself the sex wasnt escactly willing but he was my boyfriend at the time.

im so sorry that you are in this situation, i really am.
sometimes i think that the abortion was the right decision for me, back then when i was 16. but then again...i doubt in it.
do you know that there is a possibility that you will never get pregnant again? or carry a baby full term? i dont want to be hars,sound hard or rude but...i had my bortion at 16...4,almost 4 years ago...and i have lost my twin girls in the end of my second trimester.
they were perfectly healthy,my cervix wasnt....and a weak cervix is one of the many possibilities you get out of abortion.

i have two little girls, who i carried and loved for more than 20 weeks, whos hand i have hold for 1 and for 10 days....i LOVE them, i got the possibility to know them, yet there are moments when i cry about my aborted baby.

you have a job-you said so, why not look into the other option, keeping it? many times things seem unbearable for us, but somehow just ''fall in the right place'' with time.