Hi My name is Denise and i need some advice. I had my first kid when i was 17 and a set of twins when i was 19 with my ex-boyfriend. Even though we have not been officially together we have still been \"together\" and he recently just moved in and we have been trying to make it work, but I am now 20 and pregnant again. I know it might seem crazy but i want this kid (don't worry i do plan on a tubal ligation afterward). So the part i need advice on though is that my kids father wants me to get an abortion even though i am already 16 weeks and he said if i don't he will leave and will still take care of previous kids but will not have any contact with this kid. He said he won't pick it up, buy it things, or nothing. I don't know what to do,does anyone have any advice.

Denise, kick him out. keep all teh children its for the best. he had sex with you, and obviously knew the consquences, so tell him either deal with it, or leave. You are the mother, you get to keep the children.

Hey, hopefully you are ready to decide. I just want to know that I can relate to your story. I had my daughter when I was 17. Now I am 22, 24 weeks pregnant, preparing to raise both children alone. The father and I have been on and off for awhile. WHen I told him, I was so scared. Of course he denied being the father because we were not \"together\" and made me up to sound like some kind of whore I asked him to leave.
I never would've imagined myself in this situation. He then called and asked me to hve an abortion and I told him, the topic is no longer up for discussion. I just could understand how he could love one child and not the other???? Yeah I was sad for awhile. I always wanted to have a family. Being a pregnant again and alone was nothing easy to accept.
As my pregnancy goes on, I am happy every time I feel the baby move. This is a life I could've \"thown away\". I am happier now than I was with the father; I have time for me and my daughter. I dont need him and I know that I am strong enough to make the best decsions for my children and myself. I have only 16 wks until the baby is due and I'm enjoying every step along the way.....
I know no one can tell you what to do, but my advice to you is to let him walk. If he is goign to abandon his children, thats on his part. The only one missing out on anything is him. He'll realize that he way out of line, for forcing to you make such a decision. I swear, men think it's so easy! They have no idea.

hi i need help i am in love with a wonderful guy and really want to get married to him. he has already proposed but i am only 16 and he is 21. we can get marries in south carolina if i am pregnant. should we purposly get pregnant so we can be together forever? we are truly in love and really want to be a family. help

well, if thats the only way to be together, i say go for it...... but that brings it into the issue on how much money itll cost...... just living alone will be expensive but then a child. things will work out for the best. you shouldnt rush into marrage though, because if you guys really love eachother he can wait.

DENISE!!! GIRL, PLEASE READ WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.

Girl, I know you love him....I know you do. But in all actuality, he really doesn't have a choice. Even if he leaves, by law...he has to pay to help support your child. You didn't make it yourself did you? No...of course not. I am so TIRED of men who think they can do whatever they want, and then when the woman comes up pregnant they want to JUMP off the bandwagon, and want to play elsewhere.


IT ISN'T FAIR!!!!!!

There should be a law against DEADBEAT dads. Even if he is a good father to the other three....he should have thought about that before he stuck you! Sorry to seem so blunt. Call his bluff girl. Please do not kill or murder that innocent baby just because he doesn't want to be a father to 4. Please, I am begging you.

I have an 11-month old son. I don't have to tell you how much joy a baby can bring into your life. Just think, if he does leave....(which I just think he is bluffing anyways)...you will have another life to love and that will love you 100 times more than he ever could.

MEN COME AND GO..........BUT CHILDREN ARE YOUR CHILDREN FOR LIFE!!!!!