i just registered today because i so deperately need help and advice from people who know what im going through.im 18 and i found out a week ago that i am 6 weeks pregnant and ive always known that i could never get an abortion.

ive been living in spain for 8 months and had been with my boyfriend for just over the 6 weeks when i found out.however im due to head home to new zealand in 2 weeks.so the situation is really complicated.when i told my boyfriend he said that if i didnt abort he never wanted to see me or our baby from that day onward.i feel ripped down the middle.how can he just walk away from something that is 50 % his responsibility.

i feel so alone.i havent told my parents yet,i dont know how they will react.i know that babies are a miracle and knowing i have a life inside me is all thats getting me through this,but the timing and the father have just made this so hard.if anyone has advice,i dont know what to do financially or how to get through the pain of being betrayed.please help!

that was extremely low of him. i'm so sorry that it has happened to you this way. it's really too bad that all of us havent been able to pick better timing. pregnancy is supposed to be one of the most amazing times of our lives and we can still make it so, but it's very hard when you have things pulling you down or taking away from your joy. it's great that you don't want an abortion though! still, you should really talk to your parents about it. the sooner the better! you're 18 so i would hope that your parents would have more respect for your decision than would most of ours. its great to be able to talk to people about it on here but it's really a relief to be able to talk to your family about it. if they get angry then let them and dont yell back...all that im sure you know. youre older than a lot of us but we all have to grow up even more, even quicker than we would have liked. keep in touch on the guestbook pages like you have been! best of luck to you and i hope things start going better!

Kailey 17
31 weeks 6 days

Hey girl. Sometimes all you can do is pray. I too have been abandoned/betrayed by my baby's father, he was and still is the love of my life. But I still have 4 1/2 months until my baby boy is brought into this world, and I will keep praying that something will change, and that he will come around. If you know in your heart that you cannot get an abortion, don't do it. I've personally never had one, but have heard so many stories of girls who wish they hadn't. If you want to be a mommy to your baby, then you can do it. Of course it won't be the easiest if the father is still behaving so badly toward you once the baby arrives, but you'll love that baby so much you won't know what you did without him/her. And if you don't think you can be a mother yet, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with adoption. You can even pick the parents yourself, and keep it open if you would like to know what's going on in your child's life!
As for your question about financial things, well there are people/places that can help. I'm not sure how things are at your home in New Zealand, but in the United States there are all sorts of programs that help young mothers, from WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) to the Healthy Start Program, as well as numerous state and locally funded programs. If you decide to keep your baby, do some research, find out what is available to you, and get what you can! These programs are designed to help you get on your feet so that you can get out on your own and provide for yourself and your child. And no matter what happens with the father of the baby, don't you think for one minute that he can just run away and forget it all. You make sure you get child support. Good luck, and get at me if you ever want to talk.

i am also from nz, having an aboriton is hard enough when it is your own desission but if you did it for someone else it would be unbearable, make sure you do what you feel is right for you and your baby, if he dosent want to be with you thats his loss and he will relise that when you have a beautiful baby in your arms and he doesnt. gud luck

First I think you should tell your parents about this cause you never know what will happen , they can be a lot of help for you and if they dont accept you after that there are always people that can help you out.In my case I was scared too to tell them but they did support me with my pregnancy.About you bf just dont do nothing you dont want, cause u may regret it , Is so special to see your belly growing and to give birth and have someone who is part of you.If you want to have this baby just stay strong , I know is not that easy and even more when you dont have your bf support, but you can do it!Im 24 and I was confused too ,i didnt believe in abortion never in my life but when you are in that situation is very different .Instead of all I decided to have my baby if my ex is with me or not ,All my blessings to you!

Sweetie I say you kick that idiot of a bf to the curb & put him on child support because if he doesnt care about the life of your unborn child (that he helped you make) he doesnt care about you. Dont stress yourself because that will just make matters worse for you & the baby. I think you should tell your parents, because you're gonna need their help & support. It doesnt really matter how they react because you need help & you will just have to take the consequences for whatever they are...as long as you get it off your chest. You just need to think really hard about the future & stop thinking about right now...because right now has already came & tomorrow hasnt...so think about that...I hope everything works out for you...take care