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I need help...this is so messed up. I'm three months along now, and I just want to die. My boyfriend (or ex, or whatever the hell he is) just doesn't get how much i need him around right now. I just have this horrible hopeless feeling, and I don't know how to feel any better. I can't get excited about the baby, and I know that sounds awful, but all I can think about is how in the world can I get through this without him? I pray about it constantly, I can't concentrate on my courses at college, I actually cried myself to sleep this afternoon and missed one of my classes. Can someone help me? I don't know where to go, or what to do at all. I'm just scared that I'll never make him see that this baby needs a daddy and that he can't just walk away from us.

My theory on the situation is, if he doesnt want the baby, then he wont be a good father anyway. There are so many babys that dont have dads. Maybe you'll meet someone that will accept the baby just as it was his. Even though he wont be the biological dad, he will still love it the same. maybe youll meet someone like that. if not, then get child support, raise the baby to be a wonderful person and then when everything is going great, rub it in his face. proove to him that you dont need him.. thats what i would do. if you need anything my email is [you can reach me through the profile link below]<br><br>Post edited by: acas, at: 2006/09/15 01:59

Hi! I saw your cry for help and it made me curious to see what was wrong. When I read your post, my heart went out to you. I'm sure I'm way to old to be posting on this site (I'm 38! ) but since you had such a stirring cry for help I thought I could at least ring in and hopefully encourage you. When I first got pregnant, I couldn't get excited about my baby either. And I didn't until he was about 4 days old, but then the \&quot;momy instinct\&quot; kicked in. I spent 9 months worrying that I wouldn't be able to love my baby. I know it's hard to see the future beyond the pain you're experiencing today with your boyfriend and feeling alone, but God can give you the strength to make it if you ask Him. I don't know what you believe, and I hope what I said isn't offensive, but I figure if God created this little life inside you, He can give you what you need to love him/her and be a great mom. You're just at the beginning. Eat well, get some sleep, and things will start to change when you feel your baby move for the first time. Give it some time. Today will pass. Tomorrow is a new day.<br><br>Post edited by: acas, at: 2006/09/15 12:57

hey hun!! i understand what your going thro trust me. my ex which is the father doesnt want the baby exactly and im 4 months pregnant but i know that since he doesnt want to be there i cant force him to. at first i screamed at him i begged him to be there to at least care but it did nothing but just make me feel worse why fight for something you already know your not going to win so i gave up and gave it to God. At the moment im dealing with the court to get child support and they are going to grant it to me how much a month im not sure but once the baby is born it starts.... just let it go and let yourself be excited about this child i dont think your child wants to come into this world and his/her mother depressed, do you??? think of your child

You are totally not alone...I am in the same situation...I just found out a few days ago that I am pregnant. I have only been with this guy for 3 mths. He wants me to have an abortion. I don't know what to do. I just know that he is not going to be there for me. I feel alone. I don't want to be a single mom but I don't want to make the wrong decision. It is something I will live with forever no matter what I choose. I am 23 and he is 28. You think he would take responsibility, but he is a coward. I have a lot of family who will help me so I think I can get through this without him...can someone help me?!

hey family is really a big help when my sister had her baby everyone was helping and chipping in somehow... the father wasnt there either so just think about it hard and if he decides that hes not going to be there then your better off without him