I'm 21 years old, graduated from college last year nad have a stable part time job. By fiance, 21, is graduating in May and will have a decent job (hopefully). We were supposed to get married in May 2005, got engaged in Jan. I just found out I'm pregnant and don't konw what to do. I still feel so young, and we're not financially set up like I thought we'd be before having kids. We both want kids in teh future, but I'm not sure our relationship can handle one this year. Mu options are keeping it or havig an abortion. I'm not sure I can go thorugh with an abortion. I'm scared of complications and worried how guilty I'll feel for hte rest of my life. It was our choice to have sex and we always knew of the possibility of getting pregnant. I feel like it's part of life, I should keep it and live my life. At hte same time, I konw how different my life will be having this baby. Anyone have any advice? Those who have had abortions, any regrets or was it the right choice.

Hey Girl,

I understand what you are going through because I am 23 and my fiance' and I are pregnant now, too. I am 2 months pregnant now. But when I realized that I was, we both agreed that we wanted this child, eventhough we didn't \"plan\" for it now. ESPECIALLY, because we did have an abortion about 6 months ago. It hurt physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. I promised that I would NEVER go through that again. It felt like the only thing to do at the time, but we won't do it this time. We know we plan on having children, so why prolong it? - maybe I won't be able to have children, or it will be difficult because of the abortion. That's my personal experience and i pray that I was able to help you in your difficult situation. Also, please realize that if you have faith in G-d, He will provide, and open doors.... at least your finished school =0) !!! I hope only the best and peace for you and your new family.

I think you should definetly keep your baby. If i'm 17, pregnant, with another year left of school, and being kicked out this summer to get a place with my boyfriend, AND still having a baby, I think that you can go ahead and have your baby. I don't think an abortion should ever be an option, but i definetly think you're in even better shape than me, and if I can keep mine, you could probally at least do a better job keepin yours. PSo, I hope yokeep your baby, but whatever you have to do.

Laura, 8 yrs ago i would have reacted the same way but I never would have given abortion a thought! I am now 6 months pregnant, married to a wonderful man and happy! This of course after finding out at 22 that I would never have children without help and sooner rather than later. I can't tell you how painful that was---having a family, a baby, the one person who will love me more than my own parents loved me could never happen! Face the fact that you made a choice to have sex and face the result! Have the baby-GIVE IT a chance to live and love and laugh and be loved! Put the baby up for adoption and move on with life but do on KILL your baby. Or have it and be ready for a wonderful, loving life. Nothing in this world is easy. Nothing! But you can not make your flesh and blood pay for your mistake. Give another couple like us-who were ready to take a baby were it not for the months it would take to find a newborn up for adoption and then ourselves being blessed to get pregnant a chance to have a baby. To love and hold it! It's your choice. My baby is moving right now...it makes me want to cry! The idea of never being able to feel a baby's movement hurt more than anything. Someday-when you are older, married and ready to have a baby what will you do if you can't? What if this is you chance, your place in life, God's plan for you? My sister had her first child at 19. She is now a medical Student at Baylor and has 2 kids! So don't tell me this can not be done bc it can. Be responsible for your actions. You r so YOUNG-you have so much to give! It's time to grow up!
As for those girls justifying abourtion...did they see what ACTUALLY happened to the baby? Did they ever ask? do they understand they killed a BABY, a child, a person, because they didnt have the strength to face THEIR MISTAKE? NO! of course not. Aboutions are and easy way out for FOOLS and those who are much to selfish to think of their future. Look it up...tell me if this is what you really want to happy to your baby. Do you really want to someday confess this to your child-Regret it someday bc most likely when you are \"ready\" for a child you WILL remember the one you killed.
Best Regards

Laura,
I can not agree with ChantiStar and Madeline more! It is scarey but a blessing that you will either realize the first time your child moves inside of you or the day you give birth or perhaps not even until the day that baby looks at you and says \"I love you, mommy!'
DO NOT risk regret and abort this baby. It is wrong. An escape of your reality and duty as an adult consenting to sex which WE ALL know can, will and does lead to pregnancy!
Please research abortions first and like Madeline said-can you live with this? Can you confess this to your future husband and children? Regardless of what those dr's and pro-choice people say-you will be KILLING a child!
As for those girls telling their happy go lucky stories about aborting a child--shame on them for being so selfish and stupid. Read their stories! Tell me if that is what you want to be compared to. At 21 and out of college you should know better than to even ask whether or not an abortion is wrong. Unless you have been brutally raped or seriously ill then BUCK UP and have this baby and then give it to someone who is unable to have a family.
I wish you the best in world girly! Just be smart about this! This may not seem fair but it could be in the stars for you. Allow yourself to the knowledge of strength and of doing what is right and kind to YOUR BABY! THis is possible for you. Be strong. You have a home, a fiance, a job, a degree and there is lots of help out there! LOTS! Don't be afraid to ask for it or even demand help!
Maggie-Mae
PS-I have been waiting for 3 yrs to adopt. I will never have a child on my own. You don't know the blessing you have growing inside of you.

I understand what you are going through. When I was 17 Ifound out I was pregnant.I thought the same thing you are. I decided to keep my baby. It was hard. I hade school and my boyfriend was working but we made it. My boyfriend paid for my baby sitter and the diapers so I could finish school. Our relationship went through lots of tests. I am happy to say we passed. We got married and we have 4 children now. I know there are things that I wanted out of life first but it changes the second you hold your baby. Our daughter is 6 and very challenging still but I would not change it for anything. I stay at home with our children and could never be happier. younever know maybe you would like to stay home and take care of your baby. then get a part time job later. Just think of your pregnancy as a jump start to a happy family someday. And worry about life when you have too. Good luck I hope you make the right choice.