Im not a victim of it... yet, im gettin caught up in it. Im a couple weeks pregnant, jus found out , n i havent told anyone but the father of course.... but of course... the catch is, i was 16 when everything went down, n hes 22... im very worried that when i tell my mother n father, they will wanna have him arrested... n convicted of stagitory rape... but it was never like that.. n i say it over and over.. it was all consentual.. both very willing... i jus wish i loved him... because hes not my boyfriend.... jus a really good friend that i like to chill with... im still contimplating keepin my baby or giving it up for adoption... because abortion is out of the question... i don't really have anyone to turn to... none of my friends can relate with the fact of being with an older man... n i forgot to mention he has a soon-to-be 5 yr. old girl... which he is actively involved n the raisin of... its jus he, like myself, have alot to live for... and no one will win if he gets arrested... some positive yet honest feedback would be greatly appreciated... n i would like to hear from some one that is in some wut the same boat as myself...
well, until then..
*oNlY tImE wIlL tElL*

statitory rape does not mean that you were forced. It means that an adult had sex with a minor and that's illegal. It's considered statutory rape no matter if you gave consent. I'm not sure what to say other than good luck. I hope everything works out in your favor.

Depending on what state you live in, there are ages of consent. I can relate to your problem because I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 20. So I've done a little research. Just discuss the situation with your parents and how sending him to jail won't help anyone. It will have a negative impact on everyone including them. Hopefully they will be understanding and feelings won't get in the way of whats best for the baby.

Im 16 and 5 months pregnant. My boyfriend is 22. My mom thought he was 19 at the time. We told her and i thought she was going to do the exact same thing. Trust me, i know exactly how you feel. She was more understanding to it than I thought. She had two choices, put him in jail for stagatory rape, or make the best of the situation and not do that. she helped him get a job and shes helping us as much as she can. Maybe your parents will understand more than you think. I was terrified when i had to tell my mom. it was the day of my surgery after a bad car accident and i was ready to be put under when they told me. i had to tell my mom that they couldnt do the surgery bc i was pregnant. she just cried and took us out to lunch and we all talked about it. i hope it works out for you [reply here] if you need anything. your not alone.

-liss <br><br>Post edited by: arcasta, at: 2006/09/09 20:34

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm 16, gonna be 17 next week and my fiance is 22. I thought my mom would kill me and him. I told her that he was 22 and not 19 when we found out i was prego. She was KINDA upset at first. but now he lives with me, and after the babys born in january, we're going to get a place. I really thought my mom would send him to jail. She is actually so supportive of it. She says \&quot;if i send him to jail, then the baby wont have a dad.\&quot; and she likes him now that she knows him. He just got off paroll and he now has to serve 5 years of probation. So, his family thinks im 18 b/c if they find out that im just turning 17, then he could go back to jail. I'm talking to an attorney and shes finding out for me if he can go to jail considering it WAS consential. Since, i was 16 at the time and not younger, then i should be able to get around the whole jail thing if anyone finds out. So, message me or sign my guest book so I can get ahold of you easier and when I find out about it, I'll let you know

I wish my mom put my ex in jail, but I am glad in way she didn't... I think stagitory rape in some cases is ok, but others it's not- the child will be brought up a dad known as \&quot;jail bait\&quot;... and others... Other then that, good luck in all you do and your life!

Nicki