Hey girls.
I am 16 years old and I live in ontario, canada. I am as you are reading this 8 months pregnant. it has been so emotionally hard on me and my family, for the baby's father lives far away and told me he wanted to be involved and then at 6 months decided he wasn't ready and it was not his. I honestly have had times where i feel like i cant go on and i feel like dyeing, im not over exagerrating. i think about my life and how nobody is going to want me because i'll have a kid and how much i am going to struggle with my baby as he (the father) lives a great life. I neeed some support or a story of hope or something to show me that im going to be okay. I am in tears and at odds everyday because it hurts knowing that the babys father doesnt want to see or know or enjoy the life that he helped create. I really feel liek i cant go on and i know i have made it this far, and i have so many dreams and goals for myself but sometimes all thiss stuff just gets to me. it hurts and im scared im going to do something stupid that ultimately may cost me something great. please help any support/advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you.

First of all, I would like to tell you congratulations on the baby and that you made the decision to choose life. I am 46 years old so I am not going to tell you I know how you feel. I do know that it is hard. Once you see your child for the first time and you know that little life is depending on you, some how you fing the strength to go on. My ex-husband walked away when my daughter was 2 1/2 months old. I was 27 at the time. I thought there was no way I could ever raise this child on my own and give her everything that she needed. I am not going to tell you that it was easy. It was'nt. I had little help from my family and no help from his family. I struggled day to day just to give her what she needed. I ate a lot of bologna sandwiches and gave up a lot of things that I was used to like getting my hair fixed, going to movies, eating out, etc. I also thought that no one would want me because I have a child. When she was three years old I met the love of my life. He had two children of his own. He raised my daughter as his own. That was sixteen years ago. We are still together and recently welcomed our first granddaughter. The moral of the story is never give up. Just know that you are SOMEBODY and YOU matter. Don't give up on that. I wish you well. I know this is a very difficult time in your life.
Happy Grandma

I know how you feel as i am 18 and 6 and a half months pregnant. Believe me though, there wiill be guys who will want to be with you, and any who dont are not worth your time. i am sorry you are having such a hard time with the babies father. try not to stress too much. i do and its not worth it. i know it is hard but try to think in a month or less your baby will be born!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! keep your head up hun and i hope things get better for you!

Hey girlie! Well honestly i dont have a success story cuz i myself am going thru the same thing you are! I am 17 and 7 1/2 months prego. All i can tell u is hang in there! I know EXACTLY how you feel, honestly. I am still with the babys father, BUT our relationship is not too good.We fight a lot and he really makes me feel that he doesnt care. Every time i cry to him and tell him how i feel he yells and says why are you crying this time! I honestly dont feel loved by him! I had to quit cheerleading, something i was very good at, and that has really had a toll on my emotions. i miss it so much its not funny. I take it day by day,ya know? Sometimes i just feel like dieing too and just giving up! Then when i think about how i let my dad down, that really hurts me...A LOT! but you will make it, u and i both. Of course it will be much more difficult but your child will only give you motivation! I do cry a lot in the night to myself but then i come to think of who will be here in just 10 more weeks..MY Son! This is a quote that i just love\"if God brought you to it, he'll bring you through it.\" But trust me you are not the only one going thru the sadness and difficulty. But if u wanna talk or whatever, my e mail is This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it . But yeah girl, you will get through all the rough times!
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VLO

hope is what comes from inside out.....

Think of how brave you are to face all this on your own, don't be sad about any of it, I live in British Columbia and there are so many programs to get young moms through school, dont worry.

And the dad is probably scared about where his life is headed just like you are right now, thats how it happened for me, but I am happy that I chose to not let that get me down and I worked on, and evrything has worked itself out, like it was suppose to be.

You had enough strength to decided to keep this baby so you have enough scregth to pull through this, and people will still want to be with you even if you have a baby, and that narrows out the bad ones that would bail if you had another with them, right.

Life is all about belief, believe that in the end you will end up where you were always meant to be, and that everything does happen for a reason, and fate will take you there, as long as you hold in there.

Thanks
Jessica

Well done girls, these are awesome advice. I completly agree with all of you. I am a strong believer that nothing happens for no reason and that every bad experience eventually turns into something positive. It might take a while (months, years) but in the end, it's always for the best. You may have a difficult beginning but hang in there and it will clear up. You may have to postpone some dreams but don't let them go; there will be time later to take on things you have always wanted to do.Thinking of suicide is not a solution. It may feel like no one cares about you right now and that you would not be missed but you could not be anymore wrong. You are unique and there are people out there who love you unconditionally. These people will be there for you no matter what. You can and should rely on them. They may be parents, aunts, uncles, friends or even neighbors. Open your eyes and look around yourself. You are not alone.Life is a series of obstacles. Some of these obstacles may look like they are impossible to jump over. Remember: if you can't jump over them, wait a little until you find enough strength to jump over. Never stay behind. Always go forward at your own pace. You can do it. You will come out of this a better and stronger person. Look at all these anwers your email has generated: we all have faith in you.

A friend of mine got pregnant at 18 and the father denied everything. She had the same fears you are having right now. She is now a proud mother of 4 children and the proud wife of a good husband who took her first daughter under his wing (they married when she was 25). She finished her school in time to become a nurse and is now working full time and enjoying a gratifying married life.

Feel free to email me anytime you wish, even if it is just to chat about nothing when you feel lonely. I have a lot of funny stories and pictures to share!
Big hugs.
Steph.