hi i am 18 3 more months till i graduate. i havent toldm y mom yet i dont know i wasnt to but im scared having morning sickness. my bf wants me to have an abortion becasue he doesnt want it to grow up poor and neither do i but i dont want to kill it but i will i dont want to but he saidhe will be with me whatever i choose but he will hate the baby. but i said adoption but hes adopted so he doesnt want to give it to another person. im so confused! im 7 weeks today please help me he just doesnt want the baby to grow up poor and i dont either but i dunno how do i tell my mom im not close with her at all. please help


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Dear Lindsey,

I know how hard it is to tell a parent something big like that. But you know you don't need to do it all by yourself if that's too much. You definitely need her support - and I'm sure she'll give it, but if you want some help in telling her, your local crisis pregnancy centre would be happy to help you. One of the big things the centres do is help families adjust *together* to a pregnancy. You'll be able to find a local centre here.

www.pregnancycenters.org/index.html

Your boyfriend right now sounds scared, and uncertain about his feelings. I'm sure he would not hate the baby, once he or she became *real* to him. Right now, though, he probably isn't thinking of it as a baby yet, but as a problem. When there's a baby there he can *see*, he'll think very differently. Maybe you can show him an ultrasound picture soon enough.

Right now, however, you've got to think mostly about yourself and your baby. It's your lives most at stake here. There's lots of people who'll support you through this pregnancy and help you consider the best options for both of you. If you want to talk to someone right away, call the Pregnancy Helpline at 1-800-672-2296 and you'll immediately be in touch with someone who understands the type of problem you're facing.

If you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask here. And I'd be very glad to hear how it's going for you.

Eileen Rebstock,
Edmonton, Alberta, Canada

Hey Lindsey,

I'm 18 and 2 1/2 months away from graduating and I just found out a week ago that I am about 6 weeks pregnant. It was so hard to tell someone and even though my boyfriend was/is there I felt totally alone. We finally told our sisters and my sister went with us to tell my mom. It seems totally crazy and you think everyone will be mad at you, but even though that may be the case, they are still going to love you and stand behind you. There will be some who support whatever decision you make and some who dislike it, not matter what. So remember, do what's best for YOU, not everybody else.

Hello there...I know how hard it is to tell your parents this. I just recently told my family that I am pregnant and they reacted the way I expected them too. They were angry, dissapointed, and sad. Even though they were so upset I felt so much better after I told them like a big weight had been lifted off my shoulders. It all comes down to love. Your family LOVES you and no matter what happens they will. Having their support will steer you in the right direction to make the right choice for YOU! Dont listen to your boyfriend or anyone else. You must listen to what YOU really want and need.<br><br>Post edited by: Julie, at: 2006/02/28 21:08

Okay first of all you probably shouldn't stay with your boyfriend if he's the type to hate his own child. That means he's probably incapable of truly loving another person. Please don't have an abortion. That is painful for you and has lasting effects. You'll never forget it and probably never forgive yourself. Just because you keep the baby doesn't mean he or she will grow up poor. I had my first baby at 16 and my daughters have EVERYTHING they have ever wanted or needed. They have more toys than any kid I know. So really I don't think age has anything to do with it. Go to college and you will make more money. It's not that hard once you get going at it. If you don't think you can raise a baby, adoption is a wonderful option. I would tell my boyfriend (if I were in your situation) that either we can give the baby up for adoption and stay together (actually I'd leave him but I'm trying to be nice lol) or I will keep the baby and he can leave. His choice.

Sadie

im 17 years old and have a five month old son. Im 2 months away from graud. from high school.Please dont have an abortion. Its not the babys fault that this happened. I grew up very poor and now my parents have money. There are worst things in life then being poor. Tell your boyfriend to go away, he wount hate the baby. Soon as you see the ultrasound you and him( if you keep hm around) will feel very different. I did it. Its hard but we women are strong.



Please choice life,
823 Bianca