Im 21 years old and im 6 1/2 months pregnant. I found out that i was pregnant shortly after the father and i broke up. When we were together he made that whole spell about not believing in abortion and that he would be there for me and the baby if i ever got pregnant. Then when i found out he did that exact opposite. He never calls to see how im doing, refuses to meet us with me for any reason and is an all out right jerk to me about everything. Apparently he has a new girlfriend and is leading a new life. He has asked me to give the baby up for adoption and I dont know what i should do. Im scared to do this on my own but i have mant doubts about giving my baby up. Any thoughts on what is should do about my relationship with him or the idea of adoption?

I am only 18, but I have an idea. Why don't you just keep the baby, Even though he isn't with you and doesn't help you, why don't you think of all the joy the child will bring to you. I would love, absolutely love, to have a child of my own, whether or not the father is there with me, if they can't be, or they don't want to at least I know that there is a child unborn within me who will always love me more than anyone else could have possibly ever loved me. Adoption, sure it works there are a lot of people out there who are unable to have children of their own, but imagine and think about it, you are blessed to be able to carry and give birth to your very own child.

I'm sorry to hear how your ex is treating you. If I were you I would not try to patch up or pursue a relationship with him anymore. He has already shown that he won't be there for you or the baby and it is not likely to change. You deserve much better. If you decide to keep the baby you could press for child support coverage from him, even if unfortunately he won't be emotionally responsible in the child's life. As far as whether to keep the child or give it up for adoption, that is up to you. There are plusses and minuses to both options and neither will be easy. Get as much information as you can on your options and pray and listen to what your heart tells you is best for you and for your baby. Best wishes.

Kate

If the father will have nothing to do with you or the baby he has no right to tell you to give the baby up, he may just not want to be liable for child support later. Have you told your family yet, are they supporting you? If you want to keep the child there are many places and assosciations that offer support. All I can say is follow your heart. You'll be in my prayers

hi there,

I myself to am pregnant, and the baby's father doesnt want anything to do with it either. I have finally came to the dicission of keeping my baby. Sweetie do simply what in your heart and think of your babies eyes the first time you two both meet. By the way I am 23.

Hi i was 15 when i found out n my baby father sed he would b there 4 me n he was 4 2months n then he went in the army n came out after a fews weeks we got bk 2 gether for my son but it didn't work he sed he had a new girlfriend n she told him its her or ur son he picked her n when i 1st found out he told me not 2 tell n e one n wait till my son was born n dump him but i told my head of yr n she told my mam i didn't do wot he sed coz i was stronger then tht n i new i have family who would help me.

Keep ur head up high n dn't do wot he says its up 2 u but my son is the best thin tht has happen 2 me. I have just found out tht my son's father has a baby on the way again but he has left her. Us mothers/mothers 2 b need 2 show tht they can't change r minds. Men or suld i say Boys shuld not have kids all they do is leave us holdin the baby n they get away but we can get on with life n c r kids grow up they can't

Be strong n do wot u think is best

Jemma