I just found out yesterday that I am pregnent to my partner of 8months and have decided witgh him that we cannot support a child and give it the life that a child deserves so I am making an appointment as soon as possible to abort the feotus.

Brinny - my name is Lisa and I help Becky at the Stand Up Girl with some of her e-mails and when I saw your e-mail I thought \"Ohh this poor girl. She must feel so alone. Brinny - can I share with you that I also chose abortion years ago and there is not a day that goes by that I don't regret my decision? You truly can never really undertand that broken feeling of deep grief until you have gone through this experience, but I am here to tell you that abortion will not make it all better. It changes your life, but not for the better. There are days that I sit and wonder \"What would my baby look like today?\" \"What would it feel like to hear 'mommy'?\". \"What would I have today?\" \"What would it feel like to nuzzle my face into the freshly powdered tummy of my baby boy or my sweet little baby girl?\" I will never know the answer to any of those questions nor will I ever hear the pitter pat of those little feet running to me to welcome me home. Because my baby(s) are gone.

Brinny - tears fill my eyes every Mother's Day and even on some Christmas mornings when so many children are anxiously opening their gifts ... yet I have no children to call my own. You see - when I had an abortion that was my last opportunity to have a baby. The abortion that I had ruined any chances of my having a baby again. So I sit here with empty arms with no baby to hold begging and pleading with you ... please let your baby live. You can never know the pain and the agony of hearing a tiny cry of a baby ... and to know it's not yours.

Brinny - at 6 weeks gestation your baby has a heartbeat and all his/her little fingers and toes. Those little thubs that he or she have are even big enough for your baby to already be sucking. Yep! Babys at 6 weeks can suck their thumbs. Did you know that it is pleasurable for a baby to suck their thumb? So ... if a baby knows pleasure - they also know pain. Abortion is the most horrible and painful way for a baby to die. THen you will live on for the rest of your life wondering. Please Brinny - there are places that can help you and we would love to stand by your side and encourage you through this pregnancy. I will give you a website where you can go and input a zip code in your area and a list of centers that are free and confidential will list on your screen. Please call them before you choose to have your baby destroyed Brinny. THere are a lot of people out there that would love to help you.

www.OptionLine.org

Please let me know if you change your mind. I'm praying you will.

Luv Lisa

Brinny, I hope you truely think about what your doing. There is no doubt in my mind that you wouldnt be able to raise and support a child, but if you and the father think that you cant then go the adoption route. Even if you dont keep it, you gave that child a life. I am 15 and pregnant and im giving my baby up for adoption, and i really feel its the best thing i can be doing. Just think it through and dont make any \"rash\" choices. Let me know how things go. You'll be in my prayers.

Hi Honey,
Im 22 with 3 kids and one on the way. I had an abortion when i was 15, i was devestated. I wake up with night mares. Its a really hard thing to do and not regret doing. I think you should sit and think about your options first before you go ahead and get it aborted.

I will be here for you if you need to talk.

Stephanie

Dear Brinny...Don't give up the sweetest love you'll ever experience in your life. When your baby is born, your voice, your smell, and your face calm and comfort her (him). When you look into each other's eyes for the first time, you will know each other. That baby already loves you! She knows who you are, and she is happy in her little home inside you. Brinny, abortion can't fix anything. It makes things worse. Having a baby can be tough, but nothing is worth the trauma of an abortion.

Hey Brinny,
I was reading your post and wow! You know, you may feel like you can't give your baby the life it deserves, but at least you can give him or her life. Life is the most wonderful thing and you have capacity right now to either choose to give your child that chance or not. You may feel like your child will not have a \"good\" life, but what is a good life? As long as your child is loved isn't that all that matters for a \"good\" life? If you can supply this for your child, what else do you need to give him or her? There are so many children in the world that go unloved, but I know you have the ability to love your child. I can tell you are concerned for your child, why else would you have posted here? That very fact tells my that you already love him or her and you already have the one thing that your child requires to have a good life.

There is all kinds of help available for women who choose to have their baby. Here is a link to a website that can provide you with almost all of your needs or your baby's needs for free www.optionline.org/advantage.asp or you can call 1-800-395-HELP. At the website all you have to do is type in your zip code and a list of centers will appear. Just call the center and tell them what you need or ask them what they offer. They will be happy to help you. They can also talk to you about making an adoption plan too!