hey everyone.. im new to this website, and i have a big problem. im 19 years old, dating my bf for almost 2 years, and i am 9 days late. i took 4 pregnancy tests, 2 digital and 2 fact plus.. ALL positive.. i am feeling sluggish, and a lil sick, and my nipples are pretty sensitive.. i dont want to tell my bf yet, because he doesnt want me to have a kid now.. and i cant have an abortion, i just cant. i will find out on tues. for sure, but i am soo scared that i am.. i mean, its pretty obvious ya know?? my bf wont support me, probably kick me out, my parents wont support me; i'll have no one.. please someone give me some advice. im so terrified!

I think the best way to tell him ..is just wait till you get an ultrasound done after seeing those pictures of his own son or daughter he'd have to be pretty heartless to turn him/her away. You shouldn't put so much pressure on yourself though, it was just as much his responsibility as it was yours to prevent a pregnancy. Even if he kicks you out, as the babys father, it is still his responsibility to watch out for that baby and there are programs for fathers who refuse to help, like the child support program. I truly do respect that you don't want to have an abortion and if it means anything....good luck with everything...hope it all works out for you.<br><br>Post edited by: Julie, at: 2005/12/20 01:48

Michelle,

If you are late, have been experiencing pregnancy symptoms and have had four positive tests, then I'm pretty sure that you are in fact pregnant. I know that you are afraid to tell your parents and boyfriend. They may not be thrilled at first, but it could turn out that they will be more supportive than you might think. Hopefully your boyfriend will support you and the baby - after all he is the father and he is involved in the creation of the pregnancy as much as you are. I would contact Birthright or a crisis pregnancy center for advice help and support. Keep in mind that you are not alone and that there are people out there that care about both you and your baby. Best Wishes.

Kate

Don't be. having a baby its the most natural and best thing a women can go true. specialy you, now that you are 19, you can make it by you're self in case your bf. don't want anything to do with you. just remember and think of that life inside of you growing, he is not responsable of you actions, so, please don't even think of the idea of avortion, that would hurt you and will stick in you're mind for the rest of your life. just read one of the stories of the ladies who have had one already, and you'll see that they now regreat. So, my point is, don't be scare and face your concequence.

Love

Casey

hey guys. thank you so much for all your responses. they helped me alot! i am still absolutely terrified, because for one, i find out today for sure when i go to the clinic, and two, my boyfriend will not support me. he asked me last nite if i was pregnant, because i was being rude, and i said i was really tired and not feeling well, and i said 'no.' and he said 'cuz if u are, i dont care how much i have to pay, i'll pay the 500 for you to get an abortion. cuz your getting an abortion' and i almost burst into tears.. see? i knew he wouldnt support me.. now, i love him more than ANYTHING and would be so happy if he would support me, but now that i know he wont, i am even more scared. my mom wont support me, i hardly talk to my father, and my siblings wont want to have anything to do with me.. you have no idea how little support i will get in this pregnancy. i have been crying all nite long, and i feel horrible this morning for lying to ryan, because after i said no, he said 'if you are pregnant, and i find out u were lying, i will break up with you' and i just said 'im not pregnant' god, i feel soo stupid!!! i cant get this off my mind, someone please help me!

dECIDING TO RAISE A BABY OR NOT RAISE THE BABY IS THE MOST DIFFICULT STEP OF MATERNAL INSTINCTS. YOU HAVE TO MAKE EVERY DECISION FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY NOW. IT WOULD BE NICE IF YOUR BOYFRIEND WOULD HELP OUT AND ALL BUT IN REALITY YOU CANT DEPEND ON ANYONE FOR YOUR WELL BEING BUT YOURSELF. JUST REMEBER YOU HAVE TO BE AN ADULT NOW. SIT HIM DOWN TALK TO HIM AND BE HONEST WITH HIM. BEFORE YOU WIPE OUT THE THOUGHT OF HIM HELPING GIVE HIM THE OPTION OF PROVING YOU WRONG. ITS GONNA BE REALLY HARD BUT YOU CAN DO IT..FOR YOU AND FOR YOUR BABY. I AM 24 YEARS OLD WITH A SET OF 3 YEAR OLD TWINS. I AM NOW MARRIED TO THEIR FATHER. I ALSO THOUGHT HE WOULD REACT THAT WAY BUT HE PROVED ME WAY WRONG. KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN<br><br>Post edited by: Julie, at: 2005/12/24 00:57