I'm 17 and pregnant, I have left school so I am working. I am so against abortion that I don't even want to consider it, but thats what the babys father wants me to do. He has told me that if I keep it he doesn't want anything to do with it. I had never imagined that I would be in this suituation. I really want to keep it but my family think I just cant do it. I would like them to have faith in me and my decision.

I know that it will be so hard but I am willing to give it everything I've got. I just can't imagine giving up my baby tp somepne else. I have been told that whatever decision I make I have to have no regrets, and I know I would regret abortion and possibly adoption as well.

The outcome of this baby depends on me, it is a huge life-changing decision!

If anyone has any advice for me that would be great.

Hey Sara,
Your message caught my eye. I went through the exact same thing at the same age as you. I also didn't know what to do, and the pressure from everyone around me was hard to take. It sounds like you are a very brave and responsible person. If you are willing to do whatever it takes, you can make it. Do what your heart says to do - not what other people are saying to do. After a very long struggle, I made the choice that was right for me. I decided to keep my child, because I knew that he was a gift. It wouldn't have happened if there wasn't a plan somewhere out there for it to happen. I personally struggled with how to get through the last year of HS and everything that went along with it though, and I remember not having anyone to talk to. If that's the case with you, you're already on the right track. I just want to tell you that you can make it. I did things that people said I could never do with a child. I graduated from HS and went on to be a nurse. You can do whatever you set your mind to. You are stronger than you think. Good luck sweetie.<br><br>Post edited by: SweetTea, at: 2005/12/18 03:12

well, I'm not as old as you, but i am kind of going through the same thing! I'm 15 and I just found out that i am almost 2 months pregnant! The first person i told was my 19 year old boyfriend! He was so happy!!! Then we told his parent's and that is as far as it goes as I can't go and tell my parents!
Even though they are all against you I think that you should do what you think is right and follow your heart, that's the biggest thing! I really hope that things go good for you!

Sarah,

Don't let anyone pressure or force you into having an abortion if it is not what you want to do. Pregnancy is difficult, particularly when you don't have support from your boyfriend and your family. Know that there are others out there who have gone through the same situation and others out there who care. My advice would be to talk to your local Birthright or crisis pregnancy center. They may be able to provide emotional and financial support for the pregnancy and help you with options.

I hope that you do not choose abortion. There are plusses and minuses for both adoption and raising the child yourself. It is a choice that you will have to make, but either way your child will have a chance at life. Best wishes.

Kate

Hi there!! I don't know what your exact situation is, but it sounds like you've already made your choice. There are so many programs out there to help you raise this baby. Your boyfriend is not worth a single minute of your time anymore, you've got too much to think about now. I was seventeen when I was pregnant also. How crazy is it telling your parents? My dad didn't talk to me for three days! I made it clear to everyone that there wasn't any other option than to keep it, I never even thought of abortion. I do have to say that my boyfriend at the time was completely supportive, though. Any man who wants nothing to do with his own child.....I can't even think of the right words to say what a scumbag he is. I wouldn't have done it any different, I really feel like I'm blessed to be a young mom, now twenty-four with two boys and trying for a third! Please don't let anyone make your decision for you, you'll only have yourself to answer to. If you need to chat, drop me a line!

I can tell you this. When I was 12 I got pregnant, at the same time my older sister was pregnant. You think it was easy, their was a lot of drama. But my family supported me and they always stood by my side. Now I'm pregnant again and I'm 15 years old. I went through it, you can go through it.