So, i am 18 years old. I have been with my current boyfriend since september 1st, its been a month and a week about. I currently have symptoms of tender breasts, my abdomin is getting heard. I should of had my period about a week or so ago. I am stressing. I can't see a way not to. I just got fired from my job, and i have no source of income to have a child. I need to gather up enough money just to get a pregnancy test. I fear that my parents are goign to shun me and his parents are goign to shun me as well leaving me in a miserable place of confussion.
My boyfriend is 22, and he already has a child, but, through other circumstances, he does not have his child. I don't know if me ending up pregnant will push him away. He told me before that he wouldn't want me to leave out of my own fear. But i mean, Come on, its only been a month. I read girls that have been with there fellas for years.
I am so lost, i feel like i am worthless. I'm trying to get into college, but i think that will be side tracked for a while. And i am goign to have to work shitty jobs fo my child. I am, completely distraught. Any words?<br><br>Post edited by: Julie, at: 2005/10/11 00:30

Schnooky,

Try to calm down. I've faced a couple of pregnancy scares in the past, so I can relate to your nervousness and inner turmoil. However before going into panic mode yet you should take a test to find out if you even are pregnant. If money is an issue many crisis pregnancy centers offer free confidential pregnancy tests. If you are pregnant they may also be able to help financially with the pregnancy and providing baby clothes etc. Your period might be late due to stress or other reasons. If you are pregnant you are not alone and there is support out there. If raising a child now would be difficult there is always the option of adoption. Good luck.

Kate

Oh honey, its okay! I know! I was 20 when I had my daughter. I was a college dropout and I had just left the military. I was working at Wal-mart and my parents told me I couldn't move home. I had been with her father for a month and a few days when I found out I was pregnant. I was so miserable! I didn't take the time to really enjoy my pregnancy and that is the one thing I regret! Now my beautiful girl is 7 months old and I just got accepted into the local community college. I am not working at the moment but I'm getting help from welfare, WIC, etc. I will be graduating in the summer of 2007 and I also now know that life is funny sometimes. Everything may look bleak but it will turn out in the end! Best wishes!
Sara

i took two e.p.t's i am for sure having a kid. lately i have been stressed out and highley depressed thinking way too much into the future and not so much the right noiw. like i am scared me n matt will break up but suprisingly he has been with me 100 percent on everything planing on getting this job and moving into a house with me. which kworks out because he doesn'r enjoy his current room mates constant drama. life is funny as you said, before this kid matt had no motivation for anything, now he is excited to get a job complete his g.e.d and get the car fully equipted for his new baby. lol. i am kind of happy, but i am still depressed about my dad hating me. i need to apply for welfare and wics because i can't really get a job anymore. the minimum requirement is to lift 50-70 pounds and when they know i am pregnant they just turn me away..

Schnooky,

Congratulations. I'm glad to hear your b/f Matt is being supportive of you and the baby. That helps a lot. You're dad is probably upset and overwhelmed at the news, but I hope he will come around after he has a little bit of time to cope with the difficult news about your pregnancy. I would apply for WIC and welfare which will help some with expenses. It isn't reccommended to lift more than 50 pounds during pregnancy. Aren't there any jobs out there that wouldn't have heavy lifting as a requirement? Unfortunately you may face hiring discrimination due to your pregnancy, but many employers are pretty supportive and flexible about pregnant employees. As far as getting hired it doesn't hurt to apply. Good luck and best wishes.

Kate

Thank you all for your support first off! I have my 1st check up tuesday the 25th at 10:00am! matt told me he is goign to go with me and i had to explain what is goign to happen he wsa all wierd about it but he can't wait to hear when the birthday of our baby is. What a good man god blessed mem to have a child with. Lately things have gotten rockier. matts room mates X gf, who still lives there, really has the jones for hima nd i found out through a grape vine and an internet post on myspace that this chick has been talking crap about me and tellign a lot of people MY business. it hurt me so bad when i read this i imediately called my best friend and then i called matt. matt is extremely ticked off about this and he hurts when i hurt. i am no longer goign to be goign over to that house that matt is staying which hurt him even more then i though it would because he wants to be there with me through everything you know? His parents know about me being pregnant and they are exstatic and are buying me herbal teas and makign sure i am ok. its cute. But the deal with his room mates, they are treating me really badly causing more stress on me. What do i do? I want to fight, but i can't, i ove matt but i can't be there anymore. *sighs* teh struggles of a women huh? I am getting on wics and welfare when i go get my 1st check up. Anymore advice ladies? i need it so much.