I am 22 years old and i just found out im 4 weeks pregnant. Im going into my final year at university, i hardly have any money to provide for the baby. And im worried if i have the baby i wont be able to cope, in many ways. I dont know if i'll be able to finish uni. The other thing is that ive been with my bf for only 3 months even though i went out with him when i was 16 and we got back together. He wants the baby but i dont know if i love him and i would be trapped with him if i have the baby. He's already got another child and he wants me to look after the child aswell as mine once i get a place of my own. But that would be waaay to much for me to cope with. I can barely come to terms with looking after my own child. I dont agree with abortion everytime i think about aborting my baby i feel like crying so much, i dont know if i can live with myself aborting my own baby, but i also feel like its my only choice. I really need some advice from someone desperately as ive booked an abortion appointment on saturday but i still dont know what to do.

Hey girl,
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is obvious that your heart is very torn up. It's ok. Even though this is hard you will be able to get through it.

You know, if just thinking about an abortion makes you cry now, just imagine how you will feel after you get an abortion. Having an abortion will not solve your problems, most likely it will only add to them. I think you need to listen to yourself and not put yourself through something that you already know you don't want to do. Abortion is a permanent decision, and if you make that choice, there is no going back.

Being a mother would be difficult and it is understandable that you don't want to have a "tie" to this guy. But, you know, sometimes doing the right thing is hard. I think that you can be a mother to your child. I think that you can do this. Your life with a child might look different than what you had expected, but different is not bad. Different can be better than you originally thought.

I think that you can do this.

Thanks for replying to my post. Your right i am going to go through with the pregnancy, i think its the right thing to do for me. It will be hard but hopefully where theres a will theres a way.