Monday, August 1, 2005: Pregnant? Me? After being kinda premiscuous for the last year and a half, and only sometimes using protection, I guess it caught up with me. But Me and my boyfriend thought we were being careful....just didn't start using condoms right away....STUPID US!! Well, last night in my parents' bathroom I found out what strikes fear in my heart: its the little \"plus\" symbol on a pregnancy test that indicates a bun in the oven. So I went to the doctor today to find out for sure and, now I know for sure. I've been told that I have ten days to make my decision: stay pregnant or don't. I have yet to talk to my boyfriend, who, by the way, already has three boys from a previous relationship. I can't help but think, this wasn't how it was supposed to happen. I wanted to get marreid, enjoy marreid life for a bit, then start a family. What if we break up? Who would want me then? But at the same time, I don't know if I could go through with an abortion.

Wednesday, August 3, 2005: Well, last night I finally got a hold of my boyfriend who has been away for the weekend camping.... I told him and he wa surrisingly calm about it. He didn't come right out and say it, but I know he doesn't want any more kids, at least not right now, and wants me to get an abortion. I haven't told my parents, but before my mom had told me that if it ever were to happen (me get pregnant) she would help me any way she could. Part of me really wants this baby, and I hate that I'm scared to tell Rick that. But another part of me wants to just keep going as I have been; my job is taking off and I have a chance to move up soon. Also, I don't feel like it would be responsible of me to keep a child, as although I do feel emotionally prepared for this, I know I'm not financially. So that's where I'm at at this point... I'm still not 100% sure of what I'm going to do, but my time for options is quickly running out.

If you wanna keep this baby then do it. Your mother has already agreed to help in any way she can, ond you have your bf too. Even if he doesn't want to have a baby right now, the choice is yours. And besides I'm sure you're not the kind of person who would put a guy before her child, even if he is the father. If he doesn't want to help then get a court order for child support. My mom had me in college and she graduated with honors and is really succesful now. You can do this, and if not, there's always adoption. ~LoveYaLots~ Niquole

Hey, just read your story and its very scarily similar to the situation i see myself in at the moment. My job also started to take off - but ironically i quit to move over to Spain (where my parents live) for a few months to chill out before i went back into the working world etc.
I also just found out i am pregnant. Went to the docs today who confirmed that i am 7 weeks. My bf and i have been going through a serious rough period atm, but discussing this with him has him saying that he'd be totally supportive of any decision that i make about it. WE are both 18 years old - he works full time, we both dont drive as yet. We also dont have a house to live in as yet atm. But those aside he advises that he doesnt want to have a child as yet - but as i said is going to be totally supportive.
My mum has said that she would move back over here - but she is giving a really pressured hard time as we are popping over there for a month on the 16th of this month, and i want to have decided by then what I am going to do. Have an abortion or not. We both weren't using contraception - so we both had the idea in our heads that this could happen... I just dont want to feel like terminating this baby because of our relationship which is in a rut atm. But i also do no want to fel regretful or guilty for any decision ! i need help !!!

Hey! this is my first time on this website and i wanted to say it's great!!

Okay, i'm not pregnant, well, at least i hope i'm not! Anyway, i was reading the comments and i started to think....My boyfriend and i have mucho mucho un protective sex, and like most we're trying our hardest to not get pregnant. My boyfriend and i have already discussed what he thinks would be the correct thing to do if i were to get pregnant. Unfortunatly, he does not want nor need a child right now and neither do i. He very bluntly stated that he and his friends would raise money for me to get an abortion. At first, i took that very lightly, but now the chances that i could be pregnant are higher and i do not want to abort a child! i just can't do it! Not only would that be putting my body in danger of never being able to concieve again, but it can do alot of emotional damage as well. I am inlove with my boyfriend so a part of me if not all of me wants to honor his wishes and desires. I'm so confused of what i should do.

My mom had two abortions and two miscarriages before she got pregnant with me. I am 25, and her abortions have negatively affected our relationship my whole life. She will never be completely emotionally whole. I also have a friend who had an abortion two years ago and has been torn apart ever since. A child is a precious gift, and while an unexpected pregnancy leaves a lot to deal with, I would encourage you to have your child or at least consider adoption. There are so many people out there who want to adopt and can't have children. While you want to honor your boyfriend's wishes, he is not the one that will have to deal with the consequences, both emotional and physical, of having an abortion. And he knows as well as you do that when you have sex, pregnancy often happens! He made a choice to take that risk when he had sex with you. I'm in the midst of a pregnancy scare myself, and I know that if I'm pregnant, having a child right now will be really hard. Life deals some crazy cards sometimes, but the hand we're dealt is all we've got!

I will pray for you in whatever decision you should make, but know this: God does NOT make mistakes. Everything happens for a reason, and trust me, He's watching. Do not be scared, be overjoyed. I had my first child at 15, the second at 18, and here comes the third at 22!!! Looking into their faces every day, I know they were sent here to save me. Your Angel is growing inside you as I type this response to you. I wish you luck in your life, and will continue to pray for you, and all the other single-teenage-mothers who need some uplifting.