hi im gabby
i had an abortion of my little girl 7months and 2 weeks ago on the 16th march 2009(2moz) and my boyfriend doest like to talk about her atall, my quetion is is how do i get him to tell me how he feels?
it just keeps ending up in either still not talking or an argument, but we allways make up again. he is my bestfriend and we do get on really really well and i love him to bits! and weve been together for like 2years

i found out i was pregnant a few days ago and i went to the docs and they said i was 3 weeks pregnant and me and ollie are really really happy with the news and very exsited! but im just worried if this is him trying to cover up what happend to mine and his daughter

any advice?
thankyou Ox'

Guys don't tend to like talking about their feelings on someone elses schedule when he's ready he'll come to you and speak trust me just let him know that he doesn't have to hide anything he's feeling and you are there for him whatever he feels. And leave it at that. Trust me I know from experience with my bf. If you need a release write a diary that is completely warts and all and when he eventually does come to you make sure you get all you need to out to him. Much luck x

hey gabby, um sometimes men dont like to talk about their feelings and they deal with it better in their own way,and it probably pains him to talk about it, or think about it so he rather just avoid it, he wants to be 'strong', and that could be his personal way of dealing with it which is not a bad thing as long as its not changing who he is, we girls need to get our feelings out in the open and vent before we can deal with them but that doesnt mean all men are like that and we as females also feel the need to know or would like to know our partners every thought and feeling lol and want them to express it,but not all men are comfortable with it and forthcomming... i think you should not ask him anymore about it, he clearly doesnt want to discuss it and thats ok as long as you dont see him changing like something eating him up inside... so save yourself the arguments and fights and be happy and enjoy ur pregnancy, i dont think he takes this as a cover up for the baby you lost but maybe he sees this as a way to bring light and happiness into your lives and i know you both deserve it

xoxox mwah!

yes thankyou for the advise
atm everything is going ok
just got mixed emotions all the time with being pregnant


anywayy much love to you all

xxxxx

Sometimes guys just have a hard time expressing what they are feeling, give him some time and when hes ready he will talk about it.

congrats on your pregnancy!!!

I have been there before,dont force the issue-give him time.As much as we girls get hurt & feel pain,guys also go through the same thing.My previous relationship ended because of that,so try to keep the communication lines open. Stay blessed & take care Kanye