Hey Everyone,

So I have been super emotional lately, maybe it is because I am pregnant and about to be a single mom. However, I cannot stop being emotional over my ex-boyfriend (the one i dated before the father of my baby). we dated for 3 years and broke up shortly before I became pregnant. Why can't i stop thinking about what we used to have? Is it because that was stability and comfort and now my life is so uncertain? Is it because he treated me better than the father of my baby does...? I just can't figure out why. I would never want him to find out I am pregnant , i think he would be sad. I hope everything works out, but how do I get over him and move on?

Steph XO

If I was in your situation I would look at the best of things. Don't focus on the instabilities you may have. Focus on what is yet to come. A beautiful baby! Your past may not be the best, & even though you think about it often, everyone does. Focus on what you need in your life & try to be the best mommy there is. Being a single mom is not the worst thing in the world. You have to make it great. It is your decision if you want to make the best of your decisions or not. Good luck to you!

Hi Steph,
Well, being pregnant can definitely cause those emotions, or even just make the emotions that are already there a whole lot stronger.
I know that it's hard to get over an ex... after all, a little bit of your heart is his!
I think that it is probably partly what you said (that there was stability before and your life is uncertain now etc), and partly just because we all tend to think about what could have happened or what we 'lost' or what we could have done differently.
Are you with the father of your baby? If you are, maybe just trying to remember why you fell in love with him could help.
What helps me to get over different guys is to, when a thought about them pops into my head, I 'throw out' that thought and think about something else. (Sometimes you'll have to do it 60 times in a minute.) But maybe that would help.
I hope that your emotions settle out soon! It's no fun to live with super strong emotions!

sounds exactly what you are thinking. Your hormones are kicking in and your motherly instincts but it doesnt mean that you cant do this on your own. do you know what your ex is up to? Maybe talk to him and that might make you feel better even just to know that you guys are friends.

i am in the exact same situation. me and my ex were together for 2 years and shortly after breaking up with him i got pregnant with my boyfriend now. and lately its been so hard, hes just on my mind and its pushing me away from my boyfriend now. i just donno what to do, its so confusing. like i know what i wanna do, but then again i know what i should do...i donno if you have any good advise that worked for you, but if you do could you please help me out?

I am right there with you... except mine is my child's father. All I can tell you is that it's hard not having that person there that feels like a rock, but just as much that person is not a rock. Sometimes they are not strong at all. My boyfriend couldn't handle it. I never thought he'd leave me like this and without any encouragement whatsoever... I loved him so much, I can't even explain it. It's so hard to let go... but I'm here if you need to talk.