I feel like this site has become more for young girls who want to get pregnant when they arent married or employed and just want to see if it is possible to raise a child and be happy so young. The point of this site is for people who are already pregnant, mostly on accident, to be encouraged to choose to go through with the pregnancy for unselfish reasons. yes, this site is to show those who are "in trouble" that it isnt the end of their life if they get pregnant. however, it upsets me that so many young girls are on here saying they are trying to get pregnant when they arent in a relationship or even graduated from college. it is selfish because i dont care what anyone says, a baby needs both parents. so when they do that they are creating a child who will most likely grow up without a father. it is just selfish to say "oh i want a baby even though im not married or have money, live on my own, ect." So please stop encouraging those girls to "keep trying" when they just arent ready. I just needed to vent.

I totally agree with you. I was actually talking about this yesterday, DAILY there are forums about a girl that thinks she is pregnant when she had unprotected sex and continues to (sometimes even counts how many times) and then is like what do I do? This drives me crazy.

On the flip side when I was 14 or so I really wanted a baby. I can't tell you why or how it happened but I just did. I'm now 24 with a 5 1/2 year old and my life is great. So sometimes even for those girls that want to have babies they too need some guidance. I think it is good for them to talk to other girls that have wanted babies and express to them why it is important to wait and why considering we have gone thru it. I preach all of the time that I would say 9 out of 10 times teenage mothers will break up with the teenage father. Kids do need both parents, I see first hand with my daughter how not having her biological father around really hurts her emotionally.

I completely agree with MzLady22. Kids need both sets of parents. I am a teenage mum myself (18 years old) and I had a little girl in July, she's 3 months old now or so. Her father and I are still together and I'm very greatful for that. We didn't try to get pregnant, it was an "oops"...although that is an understatement lol. Besides all the tough times we've gone through, our daughter is what makes us smile at the end of the day..and for now, that's fine.

All the other girls who want to get pregnant that aren't in a stable relationship, stable household (abuse or eitherwise), or just wanting to get pregnant because they think its the new "cool" thing to do. Believe me when I say this, it isn't. The cost of formual and diapers alone can suck down a whole paycheck from someone doing a minium-wage, part-time job. If you want to go to a movie and you don't have a sitter? Too bad, you can't go. Having a child is a huge responsibility. So, please. Think hard about your choice before you have unprotected sex.

I agree with you. After going through this whole situation myself... I wouldn't reccomend anyone to try for it to happen. It is very stressful.

But we just need to point them in the right direction and give them the help that they need. I was once like that, but I realized how it turned out. Thankfully I have the father here and my family to help every day.

well maybe some of us are scared that we are.
cause we havent gotten our period or something.
and we want an anwswer to our questions.
my pregnancy was unplanned.
i had goals for myself and now i cant do those things.
so why would i want to be a mother right now?

Rebekha, that's not true at all. You can still accomplish your goals with hard work and effort. Just had to say that.