I don't understand. I hear some teen mothers that tell me to wait and have sex, wait and have kids because it's hard. And then there are the actual few who are elated to be pregnant or have kids and say it's easy. I know money is a big issue so how could someone who isn't very financially equipped say that? I'm not being judegemental by the way. It's just that I ran into an old high school friend who got pregnant our freshman year (and didn't drop out) and she says it's the greatest thing that ever happened to her and it's \"easy\". I don't get it.

Is it hard or is it easy? Or can it depend on the person's determination and will?

Every one has different definitions of what is hard and what is easy. I think a lot of it depends on the support your receive. Plenty of girls are forced to drop out of high school simply because they have no child care. Other girls are thrown out of their house entirely.

Keep in mind, too, that your former classmate might be been trying to impress you. You were at a class reunion where people try to one-up each other to show that they have their life together.

Over all my experience has shown me that marriage before the baby is a much better way to bring a baby into the world. Yes it is possible to raise a baby on your own, even as an unwed teen. I highly encourage anyone who ends up pregnant to carry to term and either parent or go with adoption, but...to purposefully try for a baby before marriage is selfish and irresponsible...I was a single mom for 4 1/2 years, I did not get pregnant on purpose though, just out of irresponsibility and ignorance, it was a struggle to pay the bills and have child care and all the rest but I survived and I made it. I got married almost two years ago now and we did things the \"traditional\" way. Our first time was our wedding night and we waited almost a year before trying for a baby. Going from being a single mom and going though pregnancy alone to being married and planning a baby with my husband and having him there at appointments and having his support during the hard months and all the rest of the things like house work and emotional breakdowns was a night an d day difference. Is it hard or easy to have a baby on your own? It is hard to be a mom single or married, like I said it is possible to raise a baby alone and do it well and have great times too but what is best for the baby? If someone is pregnant it is always best to carry the baby to term but to plan a baby you should really wait until marriage...it is just better for all involved...just my two cents...Love Meg

Hi. I'm 23 and having a baby out of wedlock, and I have my college degree and it is still hard! but I think it's the fact that so many of the women, especially young ones, have such incredible coping skills, and the fact that from where we started-scared, alone, and really down, after a couple years of really really hard work things have gotten a little easier. So maybe when they say \"easy,\" it's not by the worlds standards but compared to the hardships they have known and overcome. Just a thought. That's how it is in my case, anyway.

i guess it depends on the person really. Which also reflects on your mothering skills.
I'am a calm person, my kids are fairly calm and being a mum has been fairly easy for me. My kids are like my friends & thats the way i want it to be.
Someone they can chat to when they get older etc.

depends on your situation. yes babies are the greatest thing that can happen but that depends on your maturity level.
If you have a choice to wait or not think what kind of life your going to give to the child:side:
Mommy to be