Ok. i'm keira and im 13. i really want to have a baby. but i dont know what to do. i dont like to be told what to do with my lfe, but his situation i can deal with it. I have a wonderful boyfriend that loves me and is ready to take on any challenge i throw out to him or surprise him with. most people say kids at the age of 13, 14, 15, and 16 cant deal wiith the pressure of a baby, they can hardly deal with themselves. i dont think thats true. we are fully capable of dealin with others if we feel like it. i really want a baby. i just dont know what to do. advice?

I agree with you. Women at a young age are capable of being a great mother to their child.

At this point in time, I would think about what would be best for your child. You've given a lot of reasons why this would be a good thing for you to have a baby, but why would this be a good time for a baby to be born to you?

I am so grateful for my parents. They were not girlfriend and boyfriend when they started having children. They were married. I am so grateful to them for that.

Not only did they wait until they were married, they waited until my dad was completely done with grad school before they started having children. They wanted to give the best to my sister and me. My dad knew that he would not be able to provide for us if he were still a student. Could he have provided for us as a student? Sure. But he wanted to do what was better (finish college). He loves my sister and me so much that he wanted to give us the BEST not second best.

I would sit down and think about what it means to give your baby the best. This means different things to different people. Ask yourself what kind of environment you would like to be born into.

Lastly, don't forget to run this by your parents or his parents. If you choose to have a baby you will definitely need their help and support.

Love ya.

thanks soo much for the advice. i just really need someone to talk to. i dont know how to deal with these feelings of wanting a baby at a young age. am i crazy or something? i just dont know:/

These feelings that you are having are ok. It is normal. We all have maternal instincts.

Have you considered getting a job or volunteering at a daycare. I think that would be a great outlet. It would teach you so much about being a mother. Plus at the end of the day, you can leave the kids there!

I agree with qeenB. Your feelings are more than normal. I've wanted a baby more than anything for as long as I could remember.

Try babysitting, daycares or even going to the play ground and playing with other kids. Who knows, maybe it'll help assuage that overwhelming urge to be a mommy.

i wont say anything about u wanting to have a baby, but waiting would be a good idea...instead of having your own baby, maybe watching younger siblings or nieces or nephews or neighbors or something would be a good alternative...you get all the fun stuff that comes with having a baby, without being totally responsible and having to deal with a baby while at school and stuff like that...i hope i didn't offend you or anything, cuz i do know how you feel...