I ear all the time that a mother cant love a baby concieved by rape and Im at the point where I dont think I want anyone to know how my son came about but I wish people would stop saying stuff like that.How is my son going to cope with people thinking he should have been aborted.I love him and I think thats all that matters.I dont hate him because of what his dad did and I dont see why I should.I am not going to explain why my son is only 13 years younger than me even if people think i am a slut.My only problem is how the people who have to know will treat him.My aunt and unce that I live with apperantly dont want to be in the same room with him.Anyone else have this problem or advice on how to deal.

No one has the right to say your baby should have been aborted or given up for adoption. Some mothers can't handle having a baby concieved through rape but if you can then no one should look down on you or your son. I am proud of you for giving your baby life in the worst of circumstances. I love my daughter to death and I couldn't imagine hating her for any reason in the world especially one she had no control over. Tell people if they can't love your baby for who he is they deserve no part in his life. How horrible his own family to act that way towards him. Have you tried to talk to them about it and tell them that it bothers you that they act this way? If they don't stop is there anywhere else you can go? If you need to talk you can E-Mail me at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

i think ur right its not the babys fault that he came into the world the way he did and he has the right to be loved... i think u should get urself and ur son out of such a negative atmosphere but if u hav no where else to go then stay positive as u can i think ur a great mom for doing what ur doing....

Way to go for giving your baby life, he is your child and for no reason should the way he was conceived change the way you love him for any reason. To think that children conceived in rape is to think that their lives have no worth and that is so far from the truth. How awful your own family cannot see how strong and beautiful both you and and your child are. I agree with what loveU said, if they can't love him for who he is then THEY are the ones that don't deserve to be in his life, not the other way around. I am so happy you gave him life and now love, what an amazing person you are. I wish you and your son a life of happiness and I hope you will get through these hard times sooner than later. There are also lots of support out there, people who are there to help with situations like these, maybe educate your family a little more...Look into these options for you and your baby
And of course, we girls (and some guys) here at standupgirl are ALL here to help and offer our support so never be afraid to reach out for help!!

Lots of love,
Anna

you have the right way of bringing up your son and he doesnt need to know how he was conceived, the man thing he is here and healthy and ur doing a great job.

How a child was conceived has no reflection on who they are as a person. Shame on your aunt and uncle. I truly hope that they will allow their eyes to open and see that this baby has no control over how he was conceived and that he is completely innocent.