I posted my story on here months ago about my abortion, and well I am going to make this short and to the point:

I had an abortion because my boyfriend didn't want the baby, but I found out I am pregnant again and I decided this time if he didn't want the baby I would give it up for adoption but I would never abort again, well he is mad and wants me to abort again and tells me I can't have this baby or give it up for adoption..

should he have a choice? Should I do what I want, even if he doesn't want the baby? I have tried talking to him and his only choice is abortion... I am confused, and he says I am controlling his life by keeping the baby, and that it will ruin his life as well... Please Help Me.

He is the one trying to control your life. If he knows how much you regret the last abortion you had and are soooo sad about it, then why does he want you to get another one? Hmmm..it seems he is very selfish and only thinking about how he feels about this situation. You are the only absolute person to chose what you want to do since the baby is inside you and not him. If you chose adoption then your baby will be adopted and it doesnt matter if your boyfriend wants you to abort because it is not his choice unless he wanted to take care of the baby himself. So if I were you I would let him know how important it is to you that the baby were to be adopted and if he yells at you and sais your ruining his life, then just walk out and leave him. He doesnt deserve you. He acts like it only takes one person to get pregnant and you made yourself pregnant. He is forgetting the fact that he got you pregnant. Sorry for the reply, it is just that your bf makes me mad, lol !!!

-Heather

hun it's ur baby, and if he didnt want a baby then he shouldve kept his peck in his pants!..besides if u give ur baby up for adoption there are many types of adoption including open which is where u can keep in touch with the baby....oh ans again as for \"the dad\" he had his opinion, u didn't agree with it so sux for him!....please dont abort if u have already told ur self u wouldn't!....

I would say its YOUR choice as you as the mother know what to do and if he doesn't want to be a part of that then thats his loss, he will regret it hopefully. Don't let him control you. He has to take responsibility now too coz he made that baby as well.

Hi.

If you were my daughter, I'd deck that boyfriend of yours. What the hell's he talking about? You controlling his life? It always takes two to tango.

I'm actually surprised you haven't left him. I know you think you love him but with all due respect, I don't think he deserves you. You may have your shortcomings but look, exactly what did he do after you had your abortion? Did he tell you it was okay even if you felt bad? That was a lie. Here's another indicator: Did he have sex with you soon after the abortion even if it still hurt physically or in your heart?

What I'm getting at is this: if he really cares about you or even loves you, he should care enough not to have gotten you pregnant both times. Sex is fun (we all know that) but it's more than that. If he thinks that's all it supposed to be, then he isn't worth it.

Even if you give up your baby to adoption, though I hope you don't, I still suggest you seriously think about leaving him. He hasn't shown much respect and care for you especially in your time of need and honestly, if a guy can't be your source of strength and love at times like these, it's really time to move on.

Take care, honey, and make the right choice. Keep the baby and, if possible, please really keep the baby with you. Read all the posts on this site and you'll notice one common refrain from the girls: keeping their babies was the best decision girls here ever made and losing them because of a guy never ends up worth it.

Erick

It is completely up to you. He is welcome to voice his opinion but in the end you will have to live with the emotional consequences. This doesn't sound like the most healthy relationship. Everyone responds to the shock of an unwanted pregnancy differently but the bottom line is that if he claims to love you and you guys are having sex he has to accept the consequences of those actions.