i'm only 15 and i am pregnant.
the dad is my closest friend but he wants me to get a abortion, so it just sounds like he doesnt want to know.
im so confused... my family would go mental if they found out, and i am so scared.
the dad has gone on holiday for 2 weeks now so i cant talk to him about it until he comes back.
if i want to keep it i dont know if he would be here for me and the baby or not.
some-one help me please!!!

OK honey. First off I am sorry you are struggling with this decision but, it is yours and yours alone don't let anyone else's opinion influence your own. I was 15 when I got pregnant. My daughter is now 2 years old. I graduated high school six months early and now will be starting college in less than a week. I thought my parents would go balistic and my mom would kick me outbu ton the contrary I mean don't get me wrong they were disappionted and upset, but I didn't get kicked out, not smacked across the face, no yelling, or screaming, not even the silent treatment. So don't be so quick to judge how your parents will react, b/c they might suprise you. As for the dad this choice is your and your alone. It is your body and this child is growing inside you. Stand up and decide on your own. And even though my daughters father is with me. not once would him being here or not would influence my choice to keep my child. Hun you can do it with or without the dad. And I have never had an abortion but i have friends who have and regret it everyday.

girl don't let ne one pressure u into an abortion, it's ur body and ur baby!..do what u want!...what u need to do is find a trusted adult u can tell first and have them help u/go with u to tell the rest of u family (if u are really that scared to tell them)....and screw the dad, if can't handle it then he shouldn't have been having sex in the first place, because there's always the chance of getting preg when u have sex!!!...good luck!

It is your choice!, not anyone elses!..The father or nobody else can decide what you do with YOUR child, its yours not theres. Don't care if your whole family is dissapointed, it may sound really bad, but a family should be understanding on how things happen thats it, nobody can stop things from happening, they always happen for a reason. The things may be challenging, such as pregnancy, but there is always a way through the problems. if you want to keep the baby, i would say dont EVER let someone else choose for you what you do with YOUR body and YOUR baby. Find a trusted adult or counciler or someone else you can trust to help you out. hopefully your family will come around to the idea of you having a baby. But it was both yours and the fathers choice to have sex, and there is always that chance of getting pregnant. and it is your choice to keep the baby, and even though you are younger, if you think you can take the challenge of being a teen mom go for it! it will all be worth it in the end. Like i said hopefully your family respects your decision of keeping the baby, and dont let them push you around. They should be happy you want the challenge of having a baby, they should learn you are growing up and you can make your own choices, even if they think they are mistakes, Sorry for the language but Shit happens thats it, they should be happy you dont want to have an abortion, because in my opinion thats not right, but its your choice!! and i hope evertyhing goes good for you!!!!

Hey,

I was once in the same situation as you expect i was 17 i didnt think that my family would understand but my mum did and helpt me throw what was the hardest time in life so far..... the father told me to get an abortion his parents both wanted me to as well.... I was stuck in my own world.... it felt like there was no way out, no one to turn too.

I was scared! my bf at the time told me he wouldnt love me the same way if i had the child and he didnt know if he wanted to be with me if i had the child......So i had an abortion But the father isnt around still so all his promises to hang around after the abortion were just empty lies.

Having an abortion was the worst thing i had ever done in my life still to this day i wonder what my beautiful daughter would look like an how she would be growing.....

What im trying to say to you is make sure this decision is yours an yours alone don't let some guy make you get an abortion because you think he may not be around But make sure you are prepard to raise this child alone if you keep this baby.

Hope this helps!!!Goodluck and keep us posted

Aww dont worry hun, everything will be okay. All I have to say is please please please dont abort your baby. This is your baby, and no one elses. Your boyfriend abviouscly doesnt care about you or your baby together. He is being really selfish. Who cares if he wants you to have an abortion, because it is not up to him, is it? It is up to you and no one else. Your boyfriend may change his mind over time and accept the fact that you both will be having a baby, just give him some time. And i am sure you will be a wonderful mother with or without a boyfriend. Listen to the song on this website, it is the best song, I always listen to it. Go up to the top of the page and click on control panel, then click play....then click on the name Courtney Spears...then click on her name again and her song should play.

-heather xoxo