girls i think wat im going through may be different from wst u guys are, but plz help if u can. u see, me and my bf are really in love. he's different from any other guy ive ever met. we're very happy together, and we've even talked about getting married. he's really sweet and he one of the only ppl i have to be there for me when i need him. i love this guy with all my heart and he loves me too, really loves me. we've been together almost ten months and i guess we are moving kinda fast considering our ages(im 15 he's 18) but he and i feel that we're ready to make a perminate commitment to each other. we deffinately want to get married and have kids, but since we cant get married for another three years, he wants to have a baby now. i guess any normal girl would say no, but i want to have a baby with him too. and i dont want to wait either. the thing is though, i feel guilty about wanting to have a baby so young and sometimes i think im wrong to feel this way. so am i wrong?

Hey kiddo,
I know what it is like to feel in love at a young age. i'm not sure if you have read my story or not but I am a single father after the passing of my girlfriend. But even though you are in love. Wait until you are married to start a family. It is sooo hard to raise a kid. But raising one while still in the process of growing up is really really hard. And also if your bf and you are TRULY in love. having a baby now won't prove it or \"ceal the deal\" true love waits and i believe you should wait until marriage to start a family. take care of yourself
Andy

Hey,
I know that right now you have this idea in your head, and you want nothing more for someone to agree with you and just to tell you that you should do it, but really, you shouldn't. I know exactly how you feel and I can't stress to you enough how much you need to wait. I'm currently 39 weeks pregnant and only 18 years old. My x-fiancee and I wanted a baby SO bad when we were together. We planned this little guy. We were going to get married and have this perfect little family. But then in my fourth month I started to get scared about being a mom so young. And trust me, it will happen, your hormones make you think crazy things. But the point is, I got scared and my fiancee who was 22 years old, left me. He thought that I didn't love him, and I think he just got scared too. So please, wait! Get married, explore your relationship together, enjoy it, and then start to think about kids. At least that way you know he truely loves you, and is willing to stay by your side during all the ups and downs. You will have a much better life if you just wait though. And your child will also have a much better life, family and loving home.
Take Care
~Renee

[/b][i] u are so incredibly right. everyone who has talked to me on this matter is right. i want to get pregnant and have children , but i want it i want it to be at least when i'm out of high school first!!!!! i didn't really start thinking about this and how hard it would be to be responsible for another life right now. my bf and i talked it over earlier and wee decided it would be best for us and our future baby to wait. besides, i don't want to be a statistic. u know a teen age black girl with a baby on well fare gettin food stamps. i want a better life for my child and myself. thank you ladies and gentleman!

~Blessings of Love~
Niquole(Nicole)

Please hear me out....


There are many different views to this. Is is wrong? Here in the US, society says yes. As far as person to person, its normal to have a \"mothering\" urge. I myself went through this same phase at 14. I had my beautiful baby girl at 15 - just four days before turning 16. I keep reading that babies are so hard to care for, and don't get me wrong, its a tough job - not to mention it lasts NON STOP for 18 ++ years. But the truth of the matter is, its not that simple. If it were just \"hard\" to take care of a child, it would be pretty easy. What I didn't think about when i decided to \"not care if I got pregnant or not\" was how my wonderful daughter would feel about being born to a 15 year old, and not having a completely stable life. Or how my boyfriend (who I was so deeply \"in love\" with) would REALLY be around for the REST of my life. We've been broken up since November (his choice) and four months later I am still hearing how much he wants me back. I didn't think how my body would be completely ruined, how I would never where a bikini to the pool or beach...EVER again. I love Rhiannon. I wouldn't give her up for the WORLD. But HOW could I have been so NAIVE not to realize that I would regret this later on down the road AND FEEL SO HORRIBLE ABOUT KNOWING THAT, GIVIN ANOTHER CHANCE I WOULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN AND CHOOSE NOT TO HAVE HER AT ALL. (I don't mean abortion, I would have never had sex in the first place.) You feel so BAD inside that the person you care most about and love with such a deep passion is the same person that EVERY DAY you wish hadn't ever been BORN - or at least had begun life so much later. I am not going to tell you not to have a baby. I am sharing my story in hopes that if not you, then someone, somewhere, will be turned in a different direction. I'd like to speak with everyone who feels the same way, tell them of the aftermath. This is the best I can do, and I hope you take my story into consideration. I send you, and everyone else much love and best wishes.

Jessica

I posted this 3 months ago on the subject \"BabyCravings\" and I have not changed my mind. I really want you to consider what I've said. I was 15 when I got pregnant, and yes, my boyfriend was 18. He was different than any other guy I had ever met, I was more in love than anything I had ever known love to be, and I did not LISTEN to anyone who told me different. I was going to be with this guy for the rest of my life, and frankly I didn't care if I ended up regreting it. You are not WRONG. God, you aren't wrong. The choice is in YOUR hands though. The ball is in your court. If you've never listened to any good advice in your entire LIFE, PLEASE listen now. Do what I failed at and for God's sake LISTEN. If the both of you are enough in love with each other as you've said you are, you will love each other enough to wait. I wish I would have.

Maybe you are really in love, but you are also very young and have a lot to learn. Growing up, I was \"really In love\" with the \"best guy ever\" . . .twice, or so I thought. It was puppy love, and your not going to want to here this but it might be the same for you. If it is true love great. Give it time, wait and see, aren't you curious? Also having a baby can be a stress on your relationship. It cannot possibly ever be the same again after you have a child. Finding time to be together is nearly impossible. There is so much involved in taking care of a baby if you do it right. Between school, work and baby there will be days where you try and find time to shower and eat nevermind spending quality time with your boyfriend. Your life as it is now will not exist I promise you. In addition you dont want to end up regreting having your child like Rhiannon's mom who should be embarrased by her selfish words and idea to offer them as advice. She regrets all the things she \"missed out\" on. You might as well who knows. WAIT!