I'm to old to be this lost. I'm 33 and recently divorced with an 8 year old child. I fell in love with a new man that lives 1000 miles away from me. We have only been dating since the beginning of May. June 3rd he came into town again for the weekend. This was the first time we had sex. We used VCF as birth control. Those are the little strips of spermacide you put near your cerviks. Now I discover that I'm pregnant. I'm freaking out. He's freaking out.

The good news is that he's the kind of man that will step up to the plate. The bad news is, I got laid off from my job in February and dangerously close to losing my house. I have no insurance. We are both very depressed and are in different states right now. Looks like I may have to move, since he's the one with the job.

I am having a very hard time coping with this. I sleep all day. I can't eat a thing. This is the second day I have spent in my bed. Adoption and abortion are not options for me, but at the same time... I don't want to be pregnant. I can't do this again. I'm to old to be this stupid.

Someone please help me.

Hello,
I understand that you're so worried that having another baby will put a burden on your financial state of things, which it will be costly, but so many people do it all the time and still survive and are happy. So many girls on this site probably hardy have any kind of income at all and are still going to have their baby. Just think that everyone in the world goes though things like this in life and even a lot worse, it is just the way the world is. It is like a test to see if you can overturn the \"problem\" into something good. Don't worry, you will get though this, you have a blessing on the way, many people in the world can't have a baby and you get to have not just one, but two blessings. Smile about it, and you will get though it. You have many women on this site to talk to for advice and their are plenty of groups you could join so you wont feel absolutely alone. God bless you and your family.

-Heather

hey hon im 29 n yes its ok to be stressed n not know what to do no matter how old you are.well im glad to hear he is a helper not a walker.plase dont have an abortion if you cant handle it give your baby to someone who cant have kids.n if you keep it things will get better.you have to eat for your heatlth as well as the baby maybe a new job will come along the insurance issue there has to be a clinic near you that can help you get pcap its a program for preg women with either low to middle rage income or no income at all. i also had no insurance at one time trust me things will satert to look up.