I never want kids. Its sounds mean and cruel but hear me out

I'm 14 and I have two older sisters who both have kids, 6 of them to be exact. When I was 6 years old my father died so my oldest sister got pregnant (apparently she felt lonely or something) two years later she had her second baby so at that stage she was 20 with a baby boy and baby girl. It wasn't too bad considering she had moved out as soon as baby number one was born.

But then my other sister also fell pregnant, she was only 15 years old (I was 9) and pregnant with twin boys, a year later she had another baby a little girl with the same guy except this time as soon as he found out she was pregnant a second time he left for ever. Two years after that she had, yes, ANOTHER baby girl.

Now shes 20 with four kids and living at home. There are enough bed rooms five in total so its not super cramped but its not so great.

I'm just sick of babies waking me up at night, stinky nappies, toys and junk ever where and even more pretty much never having my own privacy.

My sister says that she wants even more kids in the future!! she said as soon as the youngest is 10yrs old she would love to have more kids. She's had four and they have effected her a million more times then me and they have only made her want more but made me never want a kid.

I know you might think that I will change my mind when I'm older but I seriously don't think I will if I fall pregnant I want to give them for adoption.

I feel mean and cruel...

What do you all think? am i just being selfish?

I don't think your being selfish! Trust me, when I was 14 I swore and declared that I was never having children. For you it must be hard to live in a house with lots of babies and trying to get on with your own life as a 14 year old.

Just because you don't want children, doesn't make you mean. cruel or even selfish! Not even the slightest.

Well...it does sind cruel and selfish, but it is understandable from what you had to say. You are only 14 and so am I. I am pregnant with a little girl, and believe me, before this I had it all planned out. Family and everything at the age of 25, but it just happend. If you do fall pregnant, I think it will be a whole different situation for you, it is not like this baby will be another one of your sisters babies, but your own flesh and blood. I would find it very hard to go through the whole 9 months of pregnancy, getting so attached with the fact that you are having your own child, i do think you could change your mind then. I actually do hope you change your mind then and dont give up for adoption if the only reason is because your sisters kids get on your nerves! This baby will be your own... you will see! Me being pregnant, even at such a young age, I am ready for what mistake i have made...i would never ever give my little girl up for adoption, EVER! I do think you could change mind once you are pregnant with your own...

Considering you've had to share your mom and your home with your nieces and nephews since such a young age, it's not surprising that you'd feel the way you do. You're not selfish or mean at all. Your feelings are your own and you've a right to them... you may feel differently in the future about having your own kids compared to your feelings about someone else's, and you have a right to change your mind at a later time. Don't worry so much about it now. Just enjoy being young and childless!

I dont think its cruel.If you dont thnk you can candle children then you should give them up for adoption.It is hard taking care of children and it is better to give the children to someone who can take better care of them and is ready to take care of a child.Besides it better than an abortion.

Hi!

No, I don't really think you're being all that selfish. We can't really love others if we don't love ourselves first.

It's actually fortunate for you that you've been exposed to all this already. That way, you know what you'd be getting into if you get involved in sex very early. I think that's the real problem surrounding you. It's not the babies really but the sex that your sisters got involved in very early in their lives. Having babies is a wonderful but difficult thing. It gets even more difficult if a person gets into it much too early.

Many people here say that babies are a blessing and yes, they are, definitely but one must respect babies enough not to just get into the brithing process without having prepared for it. Yes, young women will eventually cope with their pregnancies but wouldn't you much rather be the young girl that you really are instead of having to care about diapers, formula, baby clothes, etc?

What I suggest is that you go through your life like a little girl and not to try and be too mature too early by having sex early in the game. That just muddles up the situation. If you do allow a boyfriend that privilege, you then become somewhat unsure whether he's staying with you for the free sex or for you. Keep it clean, keep it simple.

If God blesses you with children, then that's something you should really embrace -- in the right time. Eventually, all the people who say that all they want from life is a career, success and no babies because of this and that reason will find themselves around 60-70 years old, alone and without people who could love them the way only children can. When my dad died at 72 years old, I was there with my two sisters and my mom. His friends who would've wanted to be there weren't because they had their own families. What would've happened to the man who was my father if he didn't have children? He would've died alone without anyone praying by his side, singing to him as he expired.

I love my father so much and I am so blessed to have my mother still around.

I think you'd eventually feel your life complete only when you've left a good brood of children behind who have been well taken care of by two parents who have showered them by love, understanding and sincerity.

Please take care of yourself.

Erick