Hello was sitting back thinking about my daughter. She is almost 5 and I can already tell that she is going to be \"boy crazy\". She tries to wear her clothes like most 16 yr olds do but.....it doesnt fly well with me and daddy. I dont know if I am just paranoid because of the way I was (lost my virginity at 13 and went wild from there) or if I can just see the direction she cant wait to walk in. Well regardless of what road she will end up one day I know that there are things my parents should have done to keep a better eye on me. They however pushed me away when I messed up (my dad) or condoned and even encouraged rebelious behavior (my mom). I am just hoping and praying to find that middle ground of raising my daughter to confide in me and to respect her body and the authority of her parents. I would love to hear some feedback of what you would do differently in raising your children. What did your parents do or not do that you needed them to do or not to do????

well i was very wild also! mainly bc of my father! see he pushed me in a little box! he didnt let me do ANYTHIGN! When i screwed up (like every teenager DOES) he would ground me for like 4 months no phone no friends no internet just to sit in the house! that drove me CRAZY and THEN when i wanted to go out next time he would bring it up and say well u cant go bc u messed up before! Every kid is going to make mistakes and u dont need to hold it against them for the rest of their life cause all ur gonna do is push them away! u know what i mean! So since he started not letting me do things AT ALL and made me quit cheerleading, what could i do? i snuck out just to see my friends. i would say i'm going somewhere and go somewhere else and get HI! Bc of the way he was it caused me to lie and go do things i wasnt supposed to! I will NEVER to this to my child! I want her to be able to tell me where she is going and what she is doing! I know there will be times when she will lie and do stuff she isnt supposed to....but i'm not going to take the same apporach my father did!

Its the environment kids are exposed to now. Look at all those 'Bratz' dolls with their mini skirts and dressed up as little prostitutes.
I have a daughter and worry about boys,sex,drugs etc. I dont want her being any part of that and if u try to do the right thing by them they can always rebel against you which is even harder.
Hopefully its just a phase your daughter is going through and tell her she doesn't have to dress up a certain way to impress anyone.

i always think bout this kind of thing! i kno i was definitely put under a lot of pressure growing up..i was always the clever one, the one who was guna get a degree and a well paying job. maybe it was cuz i was the oldest and the only one that ever showed an interest in my school work. but i think its cuz my parents didnt continue their education and wanted me to live wat they didnt do! but i saw this as people having too higher expectations of me and i guess when i met my bf i used him as a way of rebellin against my parents! i started talkin to him by text message thru a mate, and ended up travellin 80miles by myself to meet him without anyone knowing. which is a bit stupid but i wanted to prove that i could do something because I WANTED TO, not cuz my parents did. luckily, althougn i got in big trouble for it, it all worked out, anjd 3 years later me n my bf r happy wit our lil girl! but i kno id never push thea to do anything she didnt wana do, id never make her feel under pressure to do something in life, just cuz i never had the opportunity to do it!

luv ya all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

think about how you were raised and the things that you could do now differently. Do all that you can do for your daughter, and be by her side. remain a mom and stay away from becoming a friend... be strong hold your head up. and listen to your heart.. you can guide her but you cannot live her life remember that..

haha there is so much i will do diffrently with my baby which ever sex it is.... i know where my parents messed up my dad ignored me all of my child hood and my mom got so caught up in tryin to do good for me and my little brother she started forgetting the important things to growing kids my boyfriend well he is another story his mom was not a mother to him at all and his father was to busy tryin to find a wife to baby him and then left {m.e} as jhe was a very small child i will do everything in my power to make it easy for my baby to talk to me about everything

love jess<im new by the way>~17~