Hi.
Does anyone in your boyfriend's circle know? If not, why not?
One thing that you should be asking yourself know is that if no one within his circle knows, how does it affect you? I know that this may be a difficult time for both of you but keep in mind that since you seem to want to keep the baby, that baby is precious to you and if the baby is not precious to the father so much that he hides the fact and makes you wanna hide the fact, then you two should have a really serious talk.
Sex leads to pregnancy and pregnancy means parenthood. You two will have to grow up really fast and your being a high school senior and his being a sophomore aren't excuses not to.
You guys have to face up to the responsibility of parenthood and that means facing up to the reality that you two should be sharing responsibility for the baby. If one of you can't be proud of the baby in public, then there's something wrong there.
Even if you love your boyfriend so much, you have to see whether he loves your child as much as he should. It's not just a matter of you and me against the world here. It's you, me, our baby surviving and hopefully thriving in the world. You can only do that if you both have your eyes in the same direction.
What I suggest is that you two sit down together, preferably with a counselor or a church authority of one of your parents. There may be harsh words. Deal with it. These are the natural reactions of parents but if both of you show a united and mature front, they will have to start respecting you a bit more. THey may tell you things like, \"how could you be so stupid to do this?\" Just let them get those feelings out and take them in like mature adults. Tell them what you need and what you plan. There may be a good number of difficulties ahead but that's just how it is now. You just have to be strong together.
Being devil's advocate though, you may have to start thinking of the possibility of your boyfriend's not being up to snuff on this issue. What do you do if he says he can't hand;e the pregnancy, the baby and then ups and leaves you?
What do you do then?
Please email me anytime you think you need to talk.
Erick