well my time here at standupgirl is done. what i'am am doing is not considered standing up. i chose to have an abortion, i had an appointment today but they said that they could not do it cause i;am 12weeks and 5 days. but i have another appointment for tuesday. i had my heart set on keeping this baby, i even bought baby clothes already but then reality hit, i can't care for another child, my son just turned 4 and i'am struggling with him, i love this child that is inside of me but i love my child that is living more and i don't want him to have to suffer more. and i can't even tell what my husband thinks because he agrees with everything tjat i say, but he makes little comments that make me believe that he wants to keep this child but he was the one who made me get 2 abortions in the pasr. i'm very confused and hurt, i'm glad that i get a few more days to have my child but i know i can not do this. oh and not to mention i just got fired from my job cause my boss does not want any pregnant employees. well if i do have the courage to go through with this abortion, i will be removing myself from this site but i hope all of you young ladies make the right choice and have the courage that i did not..

Why not choose adoption instead? You said you love this child, so I imagine this is the toughest decision in the world, but it isn't your only option. If you've had two prior abortions, also think about the effects on your body. Multiple abortions can do damage to women's bodies and chances of future pregnancies. Adoption would give your child a chance at life and you wouldn't have to live with the feelings you likely already experience from terminating in the past. I'm sure there's somewhere local you can go for help and counseling should you decide for adoption. God bless.

Hey jjs Mommy,

You are already a mother of four children. You cannot change what you did with the other two precious lives that were stolen from this world, but you have the chance now to put your foot down and say no more will I question whether or not I want to allow this little life to continue to live. He or she is just waiting to come out and meet big brother JJ:) and you, His/ Her loving Mother. I urge you, please do not make the same mistake again... This baby needs you to be strong, it needs you to be the Mommy you already want to be. .JJ will one day find out what you have done, will He be happy you were strong for His little baby brother or sister or will He be torn between sadness and anger at you're decision. I cannot and do not want to put a weight that you do not need to bare, but if their was ever a weight that you have lade upon yourself it is the weight of these past Abortions that you can never take back.

Love,
Your friend 4life,
Christan

please dont have an abortion.

have an open adoption instead

Your story breaks my heart. I was where you are 7 years ago. You are right that it is hard when you are struggling with one. I chose to have him and I was a single parent for a while,where it is not easy I am glad I did. I myself have also had 2 abortions and am pregnant now .Do it if you can be alright with yourself and god. If everything in your heart says to keep it then do the struggle is only for a little while and it sounds like your husband will want what you want. This is just my opinion. You keep in touch and if you need anyone to talk to you can e-mail me anytime! Even if you decide to go through with it don't quit the site we will all be there for you even if you go through with it!

Hun , I dont think that you should have an abortion , thats murdering your child, you love this child that is inside you , i am tring to encourge you to keep your child and not murder the child .this child needs you like your 4 year old , I was the same way when i was preganat.I was scared that i would hurt my child , abortion dose hurt the child , i didnt know that ! i read an article on abortion and it made me have a change of heart.You know what i did , i cept the child and i am so blessed that i got to keep her ! I am a single mom and i am loving it every bit of it ! so please it would be your worset miss stake you would ever make in your intire life ! you'll feel so bad if you get into abortion.trust me ! i wanted an abortion then i tought about it and I kept my child. I hope you keep your child , dont make the mistake like i did !
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