I just found out i am pregnant, i havn't had my period in 2 months and 4 positive tests. If i tell my mother she will make me keep it. If i tell my step dad he will kill me im positive. if i tell them both i she will support anything he does. I cant get out of this house im not allowed anywhere. No matter what i do i am going to loose. i want an abortion but i cant do it. i cant do anything. help?

Hi Coty,

I know what you're going through right now, and most of the girls here too.

In my own opinion, you should tell this first to your mom. Life is precious, so don't get an abortion and so far the very best option to do. You're dad will most likely to kill you at first, but I don't think so. He'll get angry at first but that won't last. He is still you're father and I know he loves you, and so does your mother. They'll be very supportive of you and your parents love you. Hey, they're having there very first grandchild. Cheer-up!

Hey there sweetie....You are definitely in a tough spot....I want you to do something for yourself though, slow down for a few minutes, clear your mind to the best of your ability and think about you....you are in a perfect world, you have the means to support your baby, you will face no criticism from your family, you are free to make your own decisions without judgment or fear of the unknown....what do you do? What makes you want to keep your baby? What makes you not want to keep your baby? Ultimately this is YOUR decision, it should not be based on fear, threats, money, living situations....fears come and go, same with threats, living situations and finances can change overnight, this decision needs to be based on who you are, what you Stand for, are you responsible? Do you Stand for equality, love and life? Your mom is not guaranteed to be here for you tomorrow, your step-dad is not either, you cannot make a decision based on what THEY want, this is about YOU, you have 3 options, parenting, adoption and abortion, I caution you though, they are all permanent life changing decisions but only one of them is irreversible...you can never take it back and that is abortion....you can keep your baby, change your mind and then place him/her for adoption, you can place your baby with a family and still have flex time to take that decision back, you can go with open adoption and be an active part of your baby's life, abortion is the only permanently shut door...Now you seem smart to me, you have a problem that is over your head, you know you need help, you took action and you have sought advice, you sound like a problem solver to me, someone who is willing to learn, grow and change, pregnancy and parenting is all about learning, growing and changing....I believe in you and I know that if you set your mind to this and put your heart into it that you can make a very responsible decision, one that carries no regrets...don't look at your age or your circumstances and relationships, look deep inside yourself and ask, can I really live with the decision to abort? Do not make a fast decision, those tend to be the ones we regret most...I am here for you and I would love to communicate with you more and help you make the best decision for you, but trust me when I say that abortion is NEVER the best decision, it leads to death and regret and you deserve so much more than that....please write me...Love Meg, This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

You both have good points but i KNOW
a) if my step dad finds out he will kill me, i'm not jus being a drama ho he scares me and my mom does anything he says is ok. he does not love me and makes sure i know it all the time.
b) if i tell my mom she will make me feel like crap and then try and keep it from him so she can make me keep it she is like super religious and stuff.
all i want is to be me again i didnt ask to be pregnant or have sex and now im thrown into this situation where no matter what i do or choose i feel like i am loose. if i find a way to have an abortion i might get breast cancer or feel bad my whole life from what ive read. but if i dont then i could die or end up being stuck raising a baby if i'm lucky thatll be the best resault i guess

hi i no the situation you are in but mine was the other way around i was scared to tell my mom but not to botherd about my dad i think you should talk to your mom first when ur dads not around and then take things from there when my mom found out she went mad but the next day she was fine she came and appologised to me and then listened to what i wanted the longer you leave it the worse your going to feel about telling them xx

hey jst relax evrytin will turn out fine thee bible says the trials u go through will turn to blessings